One of the most important ways to have a girl stick around with you is to have good sex with her. It’s almost the gateway into her soul. I can recall so many times where I’ve finished up in bed with a girl, laid down trying to catch my breath, and seen these huge, bright and sparkling eyes look at me in pure adulation as if she was asking in her head “who is this guy?”
My “problem” with girls is when I’ve shagged them and don’t want much else from them. But I’ve had such good sex with them that they want more and more. I only want to see them once or twice, but the sex I’ve had with them means they won’t stop blowing up my phone. I know it sounds like I’m boasting here, but I’m a realist and I just tell it how it is. I’m good in bed, and if you want to capture a girl’s soul, then you need to learn how to have good sex too.
There are a few simple tips that I have for you lads to become better in the sack. I didn’t start having regular sex until I was 23 years old, and spent a lot of time watching pornos and learning techniques from them. God bless you, internet. But there’s more to it than positions. It’s all about rhythm, power, and taking charge. Here’s a few ways you can improve your sex life with your missus:
1 – Learn not to spaff straight away
Probably the biggest problem in the bedroom is when lads finish too quickly. When it comes to sex, I used to worry about how long I’d last, but there are ways to improve this. I know some guys reading this will think “well, as long as I come, I don’t care” – good for you, mate.
Anyway, there are certain “techniques” you can master to prevent yourself from spaffing early. All it requires is a little communication in the bedroom, and not being fearful of talking about it to the girl. If I feel myself about to come only 2 minutes in, then simply pulling out for about 5 seconds stops it. I can then put it back in and last for ages. Problem solved. Don’t be scared to talk to your girl about it and don’t be fearful of what she’ll say. Just take charge. Which leads me to point number two…
2 – Be dominant in bed
Not exactly rocket science or mind-blowing advice, but you have to be dominant in the bedroom. Pull her around, roll her over, push her down, grab her legs, and move her to where you want her. If you’ve got a girl asking you “what do you want me to do in the bedroom?” then you’re doing things right.
Don’t let her switch positions when she wants to – that’s your job. She wants to go on top? Nope. Roll her over and do her doggy. She’s on top but wants to change? Nope. Pull her towards you and start fucking her with all of your might. You’re the leader – make her follow you.
3 – The 7 shallow, 1 deep technique
I can’t take credit for this one. I heard about it from someone else early in the summer and I have no idea where he heard it from, but I gave it a go and it worked wonders.
It increases the sexual tension between you and the girl and it makes her go into a frenzy. She’ll start pulling you in towards her and will start flailing around in frustration as a result, which is what good sex is all about. The more you frustrate her, the better the experience is for her, which will lead you to capturing her soul.
The idea is this: you pump her in sequences of 8.
The first 7 pumps are shallow, then the 8th is deep.
The first 6 pumps are shallow, then the 7th and 8th are deep.
The first 5 pumps are shallow, then the 6th, 7th and 8th are deep.
The first 4 pumps are shallow, then the 5th, 6th, 7th and 8th are deep.
The first 3 pumps are shallow, then the 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th and 8th are deep.
The first 2 pumps are shallow, then the 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th and 8th are deep.
The first pump is shallow, then the other 7 are deep.
Then you do it in reverse order. Voila. You will be a sex God if you use this technique and stay disciplined with it despite how much she wants you to just go deep, deep, deep.
4 – It’s all about the rhythm
A lot of guys think that sex should just be pumping and pumping and pumping as hard and as fast as you can. Not only does that lead you to shooting your load a lot sooner, but it also doesn’t do as much as you think for girls.
When I first started having sex regularly, I fucked a Brazilian girl where I learned to start having more rhythm in sex. This made my following experiences so much better with the other girls I fucked. Pay attention to what her body is doing, and react accordingly. If she’s pushing towards you, you don’t want to be pulling away.
You should be pushing on her as she is pushing on you (assuming she’s not lazy). Good sex is like a dance, and you shouldn’t feel awkward whilst you’re doing it. Again, don’t be afraid to talk to her – communication is vital.
5 – Go as deep as you can
“Easy for you to say, Matt. You can end wars with your penis.”
I know, I know, but even guys who are hung like hamsters can get in deep. Learn some positions where you can get all the way in and touching her stomach without having the largest member. Her legs over your shoulders for example. Pull her hips in towards you whilst you’re fucking her. The deeper you go, the better it is for both you and her.
Thus ends your sex education class from The 3 Bromigos. I’ve heard complaints from girls in social circles I have about not having good sex often enough. Sure, there are good looking guys about, but apparently you’d be surprised about what your male competition can actually do in the bedroom.
If you want a healthy relationship, if you want to keep a girl interested in you, and if you want her talking to her friends about how amazing you are in the sack and having them interested in you too, then make sure you take on board some of the advice above.