Following on from Bojangles’ recent posts about the city that is Krakow, I thought I’d pop in and add some of my own musings. It’s been a while since I’ve blogged here, two years in fact. And, it had also been almost as long since I’d been on a daygame session – until a weekend in early February.
Krakow – the city for Polish sluts. Most of the best players I know are spread across Central and Eastern Europe in the hunt for sluts. Everyone’s preferences on which city/country vary, there are lots of factors to take into place. For some it’s as easy as which city has the easiest sluts? For others it’s which city has a consistent higher quality of sluts? But in the end, we are all out there hunting for those r selected sluts, whose pussies tingle as the mating dance is played out (or Game as we call it). After close to two years spent living in Krakow, I’ve come to the conclusion that there is no European city with a higher ratio of sluts to population than this city.
I’ve had a few thoughts about R/K selection girls recently. I know I’ve been a quiet for quite a long time, not much posting from me on here nor around the manosphere. That’s because I moved to Central/Eastern Europe and landed myself in a 9-5 office job. Yes, it seems awful, the daily grind of office life, tap tap tapping away at your desk whilst talking to some twat half way around the world. Thankfully its not as bad as it seems, my work life balance is the best it’s been since I started working and somehow it’s due to the government of this country. I’ve planted myself in Krakow and it’s certainly been an interesting couple of years here. At this moment in time, I can’t see myself moving anywhere else, it’s as though I’ve settled…
When I think of a blog post to write, I always think of the title of the subject I would like to talk about first and then fill out the content. When I came up with the title for this post, I imagined it being said as a 70 year old man passing on knowledge to the next generation, with his wisdom gained from years of experience. That’s not the case. They’re just some general musings.
I’ve used this blog for many different reasons in the past. Every few months or so, I like to look back at some of the posts I’ve written to see how my mindset has changed in the past few years and to see the progression I’ve made. This blog started 3 and a half years ago when I was 24 years old and it’s been a great source of reflection.
It first started out as a bit of fun with the two others, where we could re-tell silly stories of pulling girls and having guys in the Manosphere join us on those adventures. It was all fun and games, but it soon led me to writing about the things that were most important to me and the things that I’ve held inside for many years which I couldn’t talk about with others: the quest for self improvement and ultimately, accessing the elite side of the world.
Interestingly, the comments on the posts started to dwindle with this new direction I was taking, making worldly views and mindsets more apparent to me. People want a quick fix to get to the end result of an idea, and they don’t like to be told that it’s going to take a lot of work. As I write this sentence, this blog sits on nearly 1.1 million views in total. The views are still there, but the comments, the engagement and what I thought would be a small community that separated from the manosphere with a common higher purpose, all failed to materialise. As a natural introvert, perhaps that’s for the best because it keeps the circle small. There are more spoils for us, the ones that can see a better (and achievable) calling in life.
That’s not to say that because you’re not interested in what I’m talking about, you’re wrong. It’s your life. You’re just not as right as me 😉
As a driven person, I am always looking to improve my current situation. I get itchy feet and want to be doing something to further myself otherwise I feel like I am stagnating. This has brought me to two main areas of self improvement: working out at the gym to improve my physique, and learning to trade the foreign exchange market to achieve financial independence. Two key areas of my life that have similarities but couldn’t be further apart.
I have an idea with how I want my body to look in the next three years and I work towards that every week. I make sure that I push myself harder each time I go to the gym so that I am moving forwards. The difference is extremely incremental on a week-by-week basis, but if I continue in this vein, then I will be able to look back on myself six months from now and see the improvements a lot clearer.
When it comes to trading, the principle is roughly the same. On a week-by-week basis, the improvements are minor in terms of my knowledge, almost to the point where I feel like I’m not getting anywhere. This is probably the toughest profession in the world and thus, an extremely long journey even to just competency in the field. It could take years before I can even open up a chart and feel comfortable in what I see straight away. Without physical results on a daily or weekly basis, which in this instance is obviously account growth, then it can eat at you in a way that I never thought was imaginable.
You question your value as a person. You question your intelligence. You question your confidence. You question your decision making. You question your worth. You question your decision to get on the bloody journey in the first place!
It takes great mental fortitude to be able to stick at something where the only thing leading you is blind faith, and your self confidence in your own ability. Steering the course and working at a long term plan until the end when everything seems to be constantly attacking you takes a special type of mindset. I’m not ashamed to say that there are days when I’ve felt like giving up, or there have been days where I’ve put things off through not being able to take another ego hit. It’s all part of the process, and that’s the main thing to be aware of.
The message, after all of that, that I want to get to is that you should never lose sight of the larger perspective. I’ve had many conversations with my good friend YouSoWould over this and which has led me to the subject matter of this post. If you’re studying for something, you can very easily get lost in it and fail to see the bigger picture when things are either at a high or at a low. Just as much as needing to manage yourself when you are feeling low, you need to be able to manage yourself when things are going well. You can’t get carried away with a success, whether minor or major, because just around the corner there is bound to be a sharp fall.
When that fall comes, providing you have been working hard to improve and are genuinely making progress, after 3 years you will never be as bad as you were 6 months into your new craft. You can feel low at the time, but mustn’t lose sight of everything that you have achieved which has led to the current point.
Plus, you don’t want to get carried away with a success because you’ll probably look like a twat. Stay humble and play things down. That’s what the cool kids do.
By losing sight of the bigger picture, you can fail to enjoy the things that are happening in the present. As I mentioned before, I’m always looking to improve and on the days or the weeks where I feel like I haven’t, I can get pretty low. I can obsess over the journey I’m on and feel like I’m further away from my target, but that can ruin things that are currently happening in my life. Understanding that these moments are part of a process means I can manage my mood and enjoy the little things in life along the way. Nobody goes from amateur to superstar overnight, and I must keep reminding myself that as I experience lows.
It’s important to take stock of what you have in your life rather than what you don’t have. We live in an extremely material world these days and have things thrust into our vision at every turn. You must buy this new gadget! Hey, look at this amazing car that you can’t afford! Look at this really hot girl that won’t look at you because you’re not x, y or z!
Yes, well, I’ve got a great girlfriend, a loving family, a close group of very good friends and a direction in life. As long as I continue the way I am, one day I will achieve what I set out to in life, but not at the expense of the things I have just because I’m feeling a bit crap about not having a success every day.
I hope that if you’re reading this, you can relate to what I’m saying or can take the message out of what I’m saying. As I said before, I use this blog for many reasons. Sometimes, I can help you pull a girl that you’re after with my experienced advice, I can take you around London to help you gain some confidence in talking to women, or I can help you see a better vision for your life. This post is for my own purposes, really. I would like to use it as another reference point, but also so that I can look at it and remember the advice I’m giving, so that I can keep applying it to my life.
I need to improve on managing the lows. I’m still at the start of a long road and all of these new feelings of worthlessness and indecisiveness are relatively new to me. It’s important not to give up and continue ploughing ahead, but with the right mindset and the right knowledge. I intend to do just that.
I also just needed to write down a few thoughts! Until next time.
Indian tribalism is well known part of the culture, whether it’s in ethnicity or even within households and extended family. Personally I can count the number of Indian guys who know of The Game and are pretty well versed in it’s skills on one hand. I am sure there are plenty out there but I’ve yet to come across them, in fact I have found that most Indian guys my age (stereotyping here) are just standard betas who bow to the will of their fathers and uncles etc.
The psych here comes from Indian families and how they work. By the age of 23/24, your parents, uncles, aunts and practically everyone the generation above, is on your ass about getting married. They actively spend time finding a girl, hooking you up on pointless blind dates and lots more. A lot easily succumb to that pressure and fulfil the wishes of their parents, a chodeness that resonates with their peers.
Asian family hierarchy is set in stone traditionally. Once a man marries and has a child he automatically ascends to alpha in his household even above his own father who still tries to remain top of the perch but inevitably falls. If you don’t follow this ‘natural course’ that being an Indian seems to dictate then inevitably that alpha male in your household will project his vision on you and do his best to make you do what he wants (get married and have bloody kids!).
The Indian tribalism is normally structured as:
The Grandfather -> Eldest son -> Rest of his sons -> Eldest of Eldest son -> and so on – and this will be within an even larger extend family and community structure.
I’m not sure how this would work in a kingdom but I’m guessing it would be closer to agnatic primogeniture?
I am still a bachelor at the grand old age of 30 and according to my old man and my old dear I am past it and will soon find no-one to spend my life with. There was a conversation with my dad a few years back, he’s old fashioned, traditional (something that I respect) but unfortunately it’s not something that the modern woman respects.
Father – “Don’t you want to get married son and settle down? You can’t be a bachelor forever you know? ”
Me – “Not yet, I’m fine, just want to have fun with as many girls as I can”
Father – “Son there’s only so many holes you can poke into the wall!”
Me – “I know dad but my wall is the Great Wall of China”
Father – (laughs quite a bit) “ok bye” <hangs up>
He laughed, of course he fucking did, even I bloody did. Inside though he was rueing it, he’s hardly pressed me on the matter since though my old dear does her best. He knew it, he suspected his downfall, my brother’s waging a war path in the house too asserting his authority, me the oldest son being away from home is no longer under the sway of that alpha male anymore. He’s accepting it now, his time to rule the tribe has gone, and that is without neither of his sons getting married and having children. Poor man, he ruled the roost for a good stint but his time is done. Has he lost his tribe? Or is this just the modern world of Indian tribalism? I have no idea, my brother neither knows seduction nor thinks he needs it, so I believe that he’ll take over the tribe in time.
To be come a player in this world, you’ve got to break out of that hold. It’s quite sad, traditional and conservative values are disappearing all over the world. These values shaped civilisation for millenia, yet here we are at a forefront whereupon you either adapt with the slutiness or you accept that you’ll marry a slut.
Is the world a better place for me dictacting that I don’t require Indian tribalism? No, as you’ll all know, players are not wanted by society. It’s why we are ostracised and despised. Society want’s men to get married, to make babies and to slave their asses off for fuck all. Indian culture is no different, you’ve got 2 paths, get married or get the fuck out. I’m in the latter phase for now as I love this lifestyle though I may get married in the future.
It was a huge step for me initially as I wrote in a post for the Return of Kings a couple of years back.
Unfortunately I can’t speak for the rest of my indian contemporaries, or maybe I can because I think that they are the complete opposite to me. How many Indian’s are there that reject their Indian tribalism? How many Indian men actually have the courage to do it? I’d guess not many at all, after all who wants to be the lion that looks like he’s been cast out of his pride?
We’ve been a bit quiet recently here at The 3 Bromigos but that’s not due to any laziness on our part. We’re working on a few projects and ebooks surrounding the topics of daygame and Indian men for 2015. We’re hoping to drop a few free guides and ebooks to help you make 2015 a great year. There will also be some surprises in store.
Now, this isn’t going to be one of those men’s health articles about why masturbating is good for you. I’m not going to go into details about how testosterone levels are affected or any of that other crap.
What I want to discuss with you today, is a few simple reasons why masturbating is good for you in general. Some people go on the “no fap challenge” for various reasons, and I just simply can’t commit to something like that. If I’m not busting a nut in any shape or form for a few days, then I feel flat mentally and my dick wants to burst out of any pants I’m wearing as I get hornier and hornier.
There are several benefits for masturbating which is what I’m going to go into today. The longest I’ve gone without doing it is about 10 days, and that was because I couldn’t really. I was in pain. I’d nearly torn my banjo string with a girl and I’d needed to give it a rest. Funnily enough, I found the 10 day absence quite easy. My body must have known that I should keep my hands well clear of my junk, so wasn’t too arsed itself.
But when you’re fit and healthy, here are a few good reasons why masturbating is good for you:
1) It reduces horniness and allows you to be smoother with girls
When you bust a nut, it’s akin to cleansing yourself of some evil spirit. For a short while after you masturbate, you don’t want to think about being with other girls. You don’t want anything to do with them and you can focus on other things that are more important, like making money or completing a project without the distraction of your dick making you think about sex.
And, of course, if you’re chatting up girls, it makes you more aloof because you aren’t as bothered. Instead of coming across as a sex-hungry desperate pervert, you can be cooler, more relaxed, and you can give off a better vibe.
2) You know if the girl you like is a keeper
I’ve written about it before, but when you’ve shot your load, you become less bothered about the girl you’re thinking about or have just had sex with. If you’re dating a girl and feel yourself catching the love bug, there’s one simple test to determine whether you’re catching feelings for her: have a wank!
Yep, it’s that simple. If you toss your salad and think about her, finish yourself off and still want to see that girl, you’re falling for her, my friend. If you don’t want anything to do with her after you’ve had your private time, then you know the situation you’re in – she’s just a fuck buddy!
3) It’s so much cheaper than dating or getting a whore
When I’ve had dry spells and had no wingman to go out with me, or had no motivation to go out and pick up girls, it becomes a real test of my character. Ever since I started having regular sex, I can’t go too long without it otherwise I start to go a bit crazy for it.
There have been times where I think I should pay for a brass for an hour to have my fill without all the drama of picking up girls, getting their numbers, asking for dates, wondering who is going to text back and so on. It’s a stupid thing to do in my opinion unless you’ve got a lot of spare cash lying around or have a regular income which it won’t make a difference for.
I’ve caught myself looking at sites before wondering if I should do it. An easy way to save £100 and get the results I’m after? Have a wank! No more horniness, money in my bank still and no masses of time spent chasing after girls and going on dates.
This is a real lazy way of doing things, but when you’ve got more important stuff happening in your life, save yourself the time and have a tommy tank. Not everything has to be about girls.
4) Keep your dignity – don’t shag that 4!
Again, going back to dry spells, some of you may consider sleeping with that easy 4 just to get your end away. You may go on a dating site or Tinder and find the first girl that would have sex with you, regardless of how she looks. Enough alcohol will make you horny enough to mount anything, and the 4 turns into a 7 when you’ve had a few.
If you find yourself in this situation, don’t do it! I’ve done it before and felt like shit afterwards. You may not think it at the time when you’re horny as hell and would shag anything to get rid of the feeling but trust me, sit down in front of some porn and have your wicked way with yourself. Order a pizza afterwards. Revel in the time you have to yourself instead of trying to shamefully kick a nasty skank out of your apartment. You’ll feel better for it afterwards.
Of course, I want you guys to go out there and get laid, but even the biggest playas are still having fun with themselves. To the Indian guy that hit on my French girl on Oxford Street and failed, just keep tugging your little willy, mate. You’ve got no hope.
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One of the most important ways to have a girl stick around with you is to have good sex with her. It’s almost the gateway into her soul. I can recall so many times where I’ve finished up in bed with a girl, laid down trying to catch my breath, and seen these huge, bright and sparkling eyes look at me in pure adulation as if she was asking in her head “who is this guy?”
My “problem” with girls is when I’ve shagged them and don’t want much else from them. But I’ve had such good sex with them that they want more and more. I only want to see them once or twice, but the sex I’ve had with them means they won’t stop blowing up my phone. I know it sounds like I’m boasting here, but I’m a realist and I just tell it how it is. I’m good in bed, and if you want to capture a girl’s soul, then you need to learn how to have good sex too.
There are a few simple tips that I have for you lads to become better in the sack. I didn’t start having regular sex until I was 23 years old, and spent a lot of time watching pornos and learning techniques from them. God bless you, internet. But there’s more to it than positions. It’s all about rhythm, power, and taking charge. Here’s a few ways you can improve your sex life with your missus:
1 – Learn not to spaff straight away
Probably the biggest problem in the bedroom is when lads finish too quickly. When it comes to sex, I used to worry about how long I’d last, but there are ways to improve this. I know some guys reading this will think “well, as long as I come, I don’t care” – good for you, mate.
Anyway, there are certain “techniques” you can master to prevent yourself from spaffing early. All it requires is a little communication in the bedroom, and not being fearful of talking about it to the girl. If I feel myself about to come only 2 minutes in, then simply pulling out for about 5 seconds stops it. I can then put it back in and last for ages. Problem solved. Don’t be scared to talk to your girl about it and don’t be fearful of what she’ll say. Just take charge. Which leads me to point number two…
2 – Be dominant in bed
Not exactly rocket science or mind-blowing advice, but you have to be dominant in the bedroom. Pull her around, roll her over, push her down, grab her legs, and move her to where you want her. If you’ve got a girl asking you “what do you want me to do in the bedroom?” then you’re doing things right.
Don’t let her switch positions when she wants to – that’s your job. She wants to go on top? Nope. Roll her over and do her doggy. She’s on top but wants to change? Nope. Pull her towards you and start fucking her with all of your might. You’re the leader – make her follow you.
3 – The 7 shallow, 1 deep technique
I can’t take credit for this one. I heard about it from someone else early in the summer and I have no idea where he heard it from, but I gave it a go and it worked wonders.
It increases the sexual tension between you and the girl and it makes her go into a frenzy. She’ll start pulling you in towards her and will start flailing around in frustration as a result, which is what good sex is all about. The more you frustrate her, the better the experience is for her, which will lead you to capturing her soul.
The idea is this: you pump her in sequences of 8.
The first 7 pumps are shallow, then the 8th is deep.
The first 6 pumps are shallow, then the 7th and 8th are deep.
The first 5 pumps are shallow, then the 6th, 7th and 8th are deep.
The first 4 pumps are shallow, then the 5th, 6th, 7th and 8th are deep.
The first 3 pumps are shallow, then the 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th and 8th are deep.
The first 2 pumps are shallow, then the 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th and 8th are deep.
The first pump is shallow, then the other 7 are deep.
Then you do it in reverse order. Voila. You will be a sex God if you use this technique and stay disciplined with it despite how much she wants you to just go deep, deep, deep.
4 – It’s all about the rhythm
A lot of guys think that sex should just be pumping and pumping and pumping as hard and as fast as you can. Not only does that lead you to shooting your load a lot sooner, but it also doesn’t do as much as you think for girls.
When I first started having sex regularly, I fucked a Brazilian girl where I learned to start having more rhythm in sex. This made my following experiences so much better with the other girls I fucked. Pay attention to what her body is doing, and react accordingly. If she’s pushing towards you, you don’t want to be pulling away.
You should be pushing on her as she is pushing on you (assuming she’s not lazy). Good sex is like a dance, and you shouldn’t feel awkward whilst you’re doing it. Again, don’t be afraid to talk to her – communication is vital.
5 – Go as deep as you can
“Easy for you to say, Matt. You can end wars with your penis.”
I know, I know, but even guys who are hung like hamsters can get in deep. Learn some positions where you can get all the way in and touching her stomach without having the largest member. Her legs over your shoulders for example. Pull her hips in towards you whilst you’re fucking her. The deeper you go, the better it is for both you and her.
Thus ends your sex education class from The 3 Bromigos. I’ve heard complaints from girls in social circles I have about not having good sex often enough. Sure, there are good looking guys about, but apparently you’d be surprised about what your male competition can actually do in the bedroom.
If you want a healthy relationship, if you want to keep a girl interested in you, and if you want her talking to her friends about how amazing you are in the sack and having them interested in you too, then make sure you take on board some of the advice above.