Any guys who have been reading the blog for sometime now will see the change in my direction.
To be successful at “game” and picking up women on the streets, it’s a lot more than just communicating to them that you’re confident enough to approach them and tell them that they’re “fucking gorgeous”.
Real quality girls, and the hotter girls, will see right through this. Some may give you their number, but the chances of it going any further are very slim. Game is a sales tactic. You use it as a trailer to the movie, and the movie is yourself.
If your trailer is full of shit, then the girl isn’t going to enjoy the movie. When I say “full of shit”, I mean if you’re bullshitting her. If you’re telling her things about your life that aren’t true, they won’t hold up when you try go further with her. If you’re also lying to her by trying to emulate higher value men but not actually possessing the core traits of one, then she’ll see see your true value.
Most guys are drummed up salesmen. They know the lines to sell the product, but the product doesn’t actually do what it says on the tin.
Your real value is communicated subconsciously and people can spot when another is acting or lying, despite how much false bravado you can muster up. The thing is, a lot of guys think that they’ve won automatically just by simply turning up. Approaching a girl is not enough, having the balls to compliment her in a sexual manner is not enough, and reading about how to act isn’t enough.
You have to work on yourself. You have to build a lifestyle worth talking about and not just to girls on the street, but to everyone you meet. What’s the point in building wealth or an awesome lifestyle just for the sake of not lying to a girl on the street? Do it for yourself foremost, and the girls will come.
If you have genuine stories to tell, genuine experience and a lot of money in the bank, your persona will change. I’ve noticed in the past few months that my own persona and confidence is changing for the better as I have more money and am getting ready to live abroad. Little things like this simply can’t be emulated. It’s a real feeling you’re portraying. Even if you know not to come across as needy when you’re talking to a girl for example, doesn’t mean you don’t come across as needy.
If you don’t want to come across as needy, the advice everyone will say is to be in a position where you have lots of girls and don’t need sex. Then you’re naturally more aloof.
So why aren’t guys, in an effort to come across as high value, working on themselves to actually become high value? Is it too much effort? Are there not enough guys who realise their potential? Do they have too much of an ego already and think that they’re the finished article because they “know Game”?
I suspect a combination of all three, with an emphasis on the latter.
If you walk around Oxford Street or anywhere central in London, you will see groups and groups of street monkeys running around after girls and getting nowhere with them. They will ALL sound exactly the same as one another and they will all possess the same look. Eventually, these guys will end up on PUAHate’s website and other places to chat shit about “Game”.
Here’s one example I clocked in Leicester Square recently:
His opening line was “you are fucking gorgeous”. Good one. I’ve not heard that one before.
Notice how the girl is leaning away and within seconds after I snapped this, she’d bailed on him and he was back with his group of cronies high fiving them. Yeah, woo! You stopped a girl and she rejected you! Get in!
This guy is fairly typical of the PUA scene in London. No style, false confidence, overinflated sense of worth and a salesman-like approach. What right does this guy have on hitting on a really hot girl?
In fact, what right do most guys have on hitting on really hot girls? Take a look in the mirror and take a look inside yourself. Would you want to date you? Don’t answer with your false bravado, answer honestly. Would you want to date you?
This is a question I asked myself when I first started out. I was skinny and boney as hell, my clothes were baggy and I lacked confidence from within. I could muster up outside confidence, as all these guys do, but inside I was still depressed. Do you think I was able to hide that? Do you think you’re able to hide that you’re not genuinely confident?
The answer is a resounding “no”. I worked hard on myself to get to where I am today. I went through spells of not hitting on girls until I was more “ready” within myself, and the results when I went back into it improved a hell of a lot.
Don’t be that guy in the picture above. Don’t waste your free time spending hours on the streets hitting on girls you have no right to hit on. Instead, spend that time working on your appearance, working on building some money in the bank, and working out a life plan.
Stop coasting along. You’re not getting access to those girls and no amount of “Game” knowledge is going to help. No amount of relentless approaching is going to help and no amount of false bravado is going to help.
Sort your lives out, or accept that you have no right to hit on girls higher than a 6.