So yesterday I wrote about the best first date advice you will read this year regarding the 3 Bar Bounce. Today I’m going to write about the 3 Step Escalation, how to use it on your first date, what to expect from it and the meaning behind the use. I’d say it’s more important than the 3 Bar Bounce because it will allow you to escalate sexually much more quickly and much more comfortably. help on first date first date ideas
On the first date, I will assume that you are gaming a girl as you normally do or as best you can; batting off shit tests without blinking an eye, keeping an air of mystery about yourself, holding great body language and oozing with confidence. If not, then go grab another drink.
The 3 Step Escalation can be used at one bar but assuming you actually read my post yesterday and are going to take the advice on board, you will be spreading it over the three bars you visit on your first date for better effect. It’s quite a powerful tool to have in your arsenal because it allows you to compliment the girl without picking on things that guys would normally say, “I love your smile”, “you look so cute”, “you’re really pretty”, and all that shite. It helps build a better bond between you and her because it’s deeper rapport that she won’t have heard from a guy before.
Okay, so the three steps are personality, femininity, and sexiness.
For each bar as the night goes on, you will drop a compliment on one of the above to get the girl blushing and to get her to fall for you. Remember yesterday in my first date advice post where I said that going to different bars over the course of the night makes you feel like you’ve known each other for longer than you actually have? Well these three steps of escalation to go on top of that make a fine pudding and adds to the attraction building tenfold. first date ideas first date ideas
It shows you are confident enough to face a girl and tell her something about her that you like, it shows you are original and not peddling out the same old bollocks she would’ve heard before and it shows that you can look deeper than most people to really pull on her heart strings and get her gina tingling. How many people on her Facebook or at clubs, bars and even in the office or day to day life do you think she gets complimenting her looks? Although she will love the attention, she’ll get desensitized to the same compliments over and over and will be actually waiting for someone to break the mould and stand out to her.
I don’t think I’ll need to tell you this but I will for good measure. Maintain strong eye contact, for fuck sake. Nothing else will kill this more than not looking her square in the eyes.
I use the first bar to get to know the girl. This is where I lay down the foundation and make sure I ask the girl a few questions about herself to get her qualifying to me but also to find something about her which I can use this step on. You don’t want to wait until the second bar to use this one because too many compliments in one place can work against you.
Here’s a few examples I typically use: first date help
“You know what I like about you? *pause* When you’re listening to me talking, you’re actually paying attention instead of waiting for your turn to speak. That’s endearing.”
“You know what I like about you? *pause* You come across as if you really care for others instead of just looking out for yourself. That’s endearing.”
“You know what I like about you? *pause* You seem the type that doesn’t stop going until you get what you want. That’s endearing.”
Notice the two constants: “You know what I like about you?” and “That’s endearing”. first date tips
The first is to lead up to what you’re saying and to grab her attention. Bonus points if you stop her mid-sentence in one of her ramblings. It’ll throw her off more rather than just blurting the compliment out there, and it puts you in a good light that you have the confidence to say something like that.
Make sure you add the little pause after the question to get her head spinning and to build a bit of tension. Bitches love tension.
If the little hamster you’re with starts blushing, looks down at her drink, giggles or stares at you lovingly before going on to elaborate your point a bit further, then good job. Now sit back and zone out while she bores you with something related to what you’ve just said to her.
“That’s endearing” makes it seem as if she’s rare and special, that you’ve been on a few dates before and not found someone else like her. They want to be thought of as a precious snowflake, as I’m sure you’ve read elsewhere. This is great for that purpose.
Onto the second bar and the second step. You’re going to compliment her on something feminine about her. How many other guys do you think do that? I’ll tell you: just the Three Bromigos. first date advice
You want to wait a while into the conversation before you bring it up, not straight off the bat and not just before you leave to go to the final bar. Here are some examples:
“You know what else I like about you? *pause* Your laugh is very feminine and cute.”
“You know what else I like about you? *pause* Your voice is very soft spoken, it’s really girly.”
“You know what else I like about you? *pause* The way you dress is very feminine and you hold yourself like a real woman.”
Again, the same constants and tension building. It sets you up nicely for the compliment and you’ll get the same responses as before.
A good way to escalate further here is if she says “I’m not feminine at all!” then gives you an example as to why she isn’t like she has guy mates or “you haven’t seen me when I’m not dressed up!”
Now you tease her.
“Actually, you’re right. I take that back, you’re a bit of a tomboy really.”
Playful fighting will ensue. Good work. first date help
Now, the final bar. It’s extremely important that you are sitting next to the girl now because you are taking it up a notch and need to get close to her for it to really work. This is where you make your move and given the way you’ve acted earlier with the other compliments, she’ll be more than receptive to you telling her something sexy about her and you’ll notice a shift in her reaction. She’ll want you. london dating london dating
Sitting next to her, you can do one of two things. You can look her in the eyes when you’re telling her or you can get close to her and whisper it into her ear. I’ve used both and they work the same. You’ll find the girl will have made her mind up about you more often than not by now so it doesn’t matter entirely, but the onus is on you to take it further.
Again, a few examples all depending on the girl or situation. first date tips
“You know something? You’re fucking sexy. I like that.”
“You know something? I’ve noticed the way you walk, and the way you move your ass from side to side is fucking sexy. I like that.”
“You know something? The way you sip your drink is sexy, almost seductive. I like that.”
“You know something? The way you’re sitting with your boobs pushed out is fucking sexy. I like that.”
Two constants again in each example. The first is grabbing her attention once again to make sure she’s really listening and delivering the next bit confidently will throw her back. By this time, she’ll have wanted to hear something like this because if she’s still with you at this point in the first date, it means she’s into you and wants you to make the first move.
The second bit, “I like that”, is normally met very well at this point. I normally get a girl say something like “oh yeah?”, “do you now?” or “good”. If you use the drink sipping example, she’ll probably pick up her drink, sip it seductively whilst looking you in the eyes. Game on. first date advice
That’s the power of the 3 Step Escalation on your first date. As you can see, it’s much better if you’re combining it with the 3 Bar Bounce but it allows you to progress with her to a sexual level verbally without coming off as a “creep” or a perv. It gets your timing spot on with the girl and it shows to her that you know what you’re doing. first date advice
As I mentioned yesterday, it can work on girls no matter what you’re looking for. Be it a one night stand or a long term relationship, the precedence is set that you’re a high value guy, you’re confident and you’re not like the rest of the guys she’s been out with. first date advice
Enjoy your banquet of pussy tonight, brobeans. first date advice