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Dominant Man

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There is often talk in the pickup community around the idea of being a dominant man. A while ago I wrote about my view of this on a dating site (when I was contributing to a friend’s online game book and testing profiles). Close to 20 women messaged me to tell me they loved it. It came up in conversation yesterday and it’s worth a thought for the day on here.

Dominance in a man isn’t about being tough or forceful. A dominant man isn’t the guy who throws the woman on the bed, bosses her around and spanks her. It can be fun sometimes, but it’s not dominance, it’s what the idiot thinks dominance is.

Dominance is your reality over her reality. It is when you have convinced them to them to submit gleefully to your masculine aura. They don’t do as their told through fear, they do as you say because they are in awe of you; you’ve shown them how much obedience turns them on. They trust you and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that their wellbeing is your utmost priority.

I suppose a way I can begin to understand what a women may feel around an awesome man would be if I were to imagine Robert Plant gave me a singing lesson. He’d presumably be dominant in the relationship. Not because he was pushing me around or bullying me or bellowing, but because I’d be in awe of his singing ability and gleefully submit to his dominance. I’d do anything he told me to and it would be a thrill to do so.

Sexual Asset Stripping: A Very Cruel Theft

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This is a repost of Jimmy’s recent blog post.

A few years ago I had an unusual conversation with a disgusting, selfish, fat girl at work. It went something thus:

Her: ‘You’re 32 and your girlfriend is 23, it will never work out with an age gap like that’.

Me: ‘I know, she’s too old for me. We might not date for much longer’.

Her: ‘You mean she’s too young for you. Yeah, I know. So what’s the point dating her’.

Me: ‘No. I meant she’s too old for me. That’s why there is no future’.

Her: ‘!?!?! She’s too OLD for you!?!?! She’s 9 years younger than you’

Me: ‘Yeah. That means when I am 40, she’ll be 31. If I married her today, then when I am around my peak value, I’d be with a 31 year old woman. She’s too old for me’.

From that point on the girl I had the conversation with (a fat girl in her mid 30s) was openly hostile and rude to me and I suspect it was her who denounced me to HR when I one day mentioned my girlfriend liked me for my leadership qualities. Someone told told HR that I’d said ‘men are leaders, women aren’t’. Satisfyingly, I told HR that I was handing in my notice to spend 6 months travelling around Europe – should I go now for sexism or would they like me to stay and do a handover? They asked me to stay. They came back a couple of weeks later and asked me if I’d do a longer handover. Ah… the power of having no debts, no cost obligations and a pile of coin in the bank. Work cannot fuck with you. Ever.

(As an aside, a good book to read which examines the intellectual dishonesty of people like the fat girl is called ‘The Vision Of The Anointed’ by Thomas Sowell. I am currently reading it. It’s worth a look).

The truth is, when a girl hits 30, she’s going to start finding it tougher to compete. I think this article is well known in the red pill world but if you haven’t ever read it it’s worth a read – if not just for the reality denying comments at the bottom of the article.

Once I realised that a girl’s value is early and fleeting, then I found myself in a position of considerable responsibility. The girls very rarely see this truth, they think they have years of fun ahead of them before they settle down, but they don’t recognise very often that after 30 they’ll be competing against much younger, hotter women. Their acquired skills and resources won’t attract men to them as much as a toned arse and a pretty face.

Genetic Inheritance - Don't squander it!

Genetic Inheritance – Don’t squander it!

It’s no coincidence that 3 of the last 7 girls I dated, all in their early 20s, got married within 6 months of ending things with me. Two now have had children, neither of them is yet above 26 I don’t think. They’ve cashed in their genetic lottery ticket.So where does this leave me when I am dating a girl through her core SMV when I know I am not going to keep her? It’s one thing laughing at girls who were bitches in their 20s, rode the carousel until they were dizzy and then became bitter when it was time to pay the piper in their 30s, but what about the girls who aren’t like this, the ones we date, the lovely gentle girls we care for who just haven’t had red pill guidance?

I was recently with a friend on a sunshine break. He’s close to 30 and he knows full well that he has more than a decade to wait before his vintage matures. His girlfriend was with us. A gorgeous, fun, sexy as hell girl who is 28.

They get on well, they have been dating for 6 months and have plans next year to do some travelling, maybe JJ and I will go with them. So I said to him:

Me: ‘Congratulations mate, have you set a date then yet?’

Him: ‘Eh?’

Me: ‘Your wedding. You and Marta’.

Him: ‘God no. I am not going to marry her’.

Me: ‘Then what are you doing to her, you little rat. She’s 28. You can’t take two years of her market value if you have any respect or consideration for her. She’ll be 30 when you dump her. Don’t be a twat’.

He understood. Using pickup skills to fuck a few girls is one thing. But dating is a different kettle of fish. You’re spending someone’s genetic inheritance. A 12 month relationship with a 23 year old is very different to a 12 month relationship with a 28 year old.

Dating a girl from the age of 23 through to 28 and then leaving her to compete a league below where you found her is a very cruel theft, a form of asset stripping. You not only break a well established bond that the girl has come to depend on, you figuratively take the cream of her assets, spend it to fulfill your own needs and then discard the shell once you’re done.

It would be like buying a Premier League football club, then over a few years selling all the best players, selling the ground on a rental deal, pocketing the money, then when they’re relegated into the lower league with no ground, no team, moving on to another club leaving them with no hope of competing for any kind of success.

I’ve seen this happen a few times at close quarters (not done by my hand, but by people of my acquaintance). Months after the break up I’ll see the girl in question by chance. I may imagine it, but the sadness in her face is apparent to me. The break up possibly disturbs her emotionally, but the sting in the tail may not have fully even dawned on her at that point. It may not fully dawn on her until the day she realizes she’s no longer Premier League.

I try not to be a mop head. I try to leave girls better off than when I found them. The world is full enough already of disgusting, selfish, fat girls who hate men. I sure as hell don’t want to create any more.

 

 

Five signs you are an orbiting fuckwit

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A girl with a boyfriend accepted a date with me recently. Taking girls off their boyfriends is something I accept as a necessary part of getting hot women. So going spending my time with attached women is no big deal to me. I often pick them up and I often fuck them.

So it got me thinking. Especially when you’re with a girl who is ‘taken’, how do you know if you’re getting somewhere or you’re just an orbiter?

Hmm. Is she into me?

Hmm. Is she into me?

I just know. I am semi natural, semi learned. Incidentally I hear a lot of guys say exactly this, but when I press them on it, I find out their ‘natural game’ has bedded them 2 or 3 average women over a few years years. Well… that’s not ‘natural game’, that’s ‘naturally having no game whatsoever’. Game means you get women into bed a lot.

Anway. I was always on it with girls and when I learned game, it gave me a philosophy that explained to me why I had been so successful and an infrastructure to increase the good stuff I did and decrease the bad stuff I had been doing.

As such, being largely natural, I always find it very hard to introspect and create my own structure and science around my experiences. I always ‘just sort of know’, can ‘just sort of tell’. I can read someone else’s method, like the Mystery Method, and quickly get it and approve it or not. I can amend it and assimilate.

In RSG, a lot of the ‘RSG method’ we developed between us all, was the naturals doing things, then one of the learned guys, after watching them and introspecting, would come back a few days later with a breakdown and a rationale. (Repeat that process ad nauseam over 4 years in a big house in London and people start to get pretty good).

So I messaged out to a few of the old boys yesterday ‘how do you spot you’re an orbiter’ and these are some of the returns.

Convo time (John Wisdom)

When does she talk to you or meet you? Is it at moments when her time is at a premium or just when you fit in? If she finds time for you when it’s premium time, then you’re less likely to be an orbiter.

Now it depends on the girl as to what her idea of premium time is. You might have to work that out for yourself. If she is a bit of a party chick and she is text conversing with you a lot when she’s on most of her nights out, then you can maybe take it as a good sign.

When she has a choice between you and something she finds value in – does she choose you?

Sex talk (Lee)

An obvious one from Lee, but he made a good, further point. How does she react to flirtation and direct sex talk? Does she go with it or shut it down?

It’s dead easy. I test girls with boyfriends by saying things like ‘With a brain like mine our kids would be unbeatable.  And with a body like yours, I’d be encouraged to make a lot of them’.

Then I just watch to see how she reacts. I’m telling her that not only is she going to give her precious eggs up for my genes (a thought she’d has a visceral reaction to if she didn’t fancy me)… but that I’m going to fuck her repeatedly AND it’s what I really want to do.

If she likes it, smiles, laughs, plays along, then you’re likely in a green zone.

If she blocks this kind of talk with ‘why would you say that’ or ‘that’s not funny’ ‘Ugh, don’t be weird’ or any answer that shuts down this kind of avenue, then you may be outside her sexual radar.

One way favours (Bojangles)

This one is brilliant. I’ve done this so many times. I knew what I was doing, but at the same time I didn’t know why I was doing it. I would never have put my finger on it.

Does she do you mundane or inconvenient favours for thanks or even no thanks?

Example. Within two weeks of knowing my girlfriend JJ, I gave her a cumbersome, awkward job to do for me, which would also cost her £10. She did it enthusiastically. I needed the job doing, but I can see how I was automatically testing her for her willingness to please me. I was trying to work out if I was on the radar or not.

My job for her incidentally was to post me back to the UK some clothes I couldn’t fit in my suitcase. A boring chore which would take time and effort and cost postage.

So see if she is willing to put herself out for you. Will she surrender her time to something non glamorous, just to please you. This is what girls do for men who they want to fuck. 

Flakey (John Bodi)

A good one from Bodi. If she is happy to let you down and it’s not unusual for her to do so, then you’re just not important to her. When a girl likes a guy, everything takes a back seat. Being late is one thing, but general flakiness, last minute cancellations, last minute changes to plans, all signs you’re just a side portion in her eyes.

Some girls, Bodi says, like to collect orbiters. They are super friendly up front to tease them in, then pull themselves away. I’ve never experienced this, because I am cool as fuck and I wear a leather jacket and ripped jeans. But I take his word for it. It’s probably happened to him loads of times.

Being introduced to her friends as a friend (sigh…’ The Sundance Kid’)

We have to call him the Sundance Kid now. He should have chosen a proper name the first time round, rather than his real one. That might have been a good idea. Now we have to get used to not only calling him a new name, but a long winded one at that.

Anway, Sundance suggested two signs.

One, she pains to introduce you as a friend to other people. She wants to make it clear she is not romantic with a low value fuckwit like yourself.

He goes one step further and points out, if she has a boyfriend and she is happy to introduce you to her friends at all, then you’re not someone she wants to be discreet about. So don’t go buying and rubbers any time soon.

If anyone has any more, let us know.

The High Value Man

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I want to do some philosophical wind bagging on the subject of this idea of the ‘high value man’. It’s a rainy day and it’s much more preferable an idea to sit here in the warm drinking coffee spouting my unique blend of cod psychology, wild assumptions and dubious science than it is to go outside and actually talk to girls.

(On that note: This time next week, I’ll be in Croatia, the land of friendly people, great food and nice weather. I have my jingle recorded and if I can work out some logistics such as finding a cameraman, then hopefully, I’ll be able to hit you with some entertaining infields. I’ve also got to work out a way to pitch this idea to my amazing girlfriend so that she thinks it’s all a bit of a jolly jape, rather than her boyfriend freely and openly chasing skirt in the street like a dog with two dicks).

So what were we talking about? Oh yes, how ‘high value’ we all are.

This idea of being high value is a central theme in the pickup world and within all pickup methodologies I’ve ever read. This is probably because all pickup methodologies, despite the protestations of their originators, are repeating only that which was originally explained by Erik von Markovich in his book ‘The Mystery Method’. Erik’s book is the cornerstone of pickup and really, let’s be honest, the only book you really need to read on the subject.

So we all get the idea that girls are attracted to, or chase, value in men. The high value man is the one who will, if not in every moment, but over time, enjoy the most successful and fruitful sexual encounters with the highest value (hottest) women.

Value in women is measured largely by looks. As fair or unfair as that may be, that’s called ‘nature’ and rational people understand this. Feminists complain about it.

But what then, is value in men.

Well forgive me if I am preaching to the converted, but I thought we were all on the same page here. I thought we’d all realised that a man’s value was that which he carried within, not without. It appears though that I was wrong. Now, my last two years of exile aside, when I was last actually involved in pickup, my interactions and discussions thereof were largely limited to my peers, who were often established participants in the pickup lifestyle. So of course, we had shared a consensus on what this ‘high value’ thing means.

Now, as you know, I am stuck in Manchester, working the final weeks of my contract here in Wigan and I’ve started meeting newbies of forums and hanging out with them. After Luke died I spent a couple of months moping then I got this death fear that I too was going to die. My solution was to go out and do something. A band was too much hard work, pickup was the obvious choice.

So I am with these new guys and it’s been great fun. It was one of them, JoeP, who ignited the idea of me starting my blog again, but this is all going off the point. The point is, what I am hearing in these conversations is what I think is a misunderstanding of what ‘high value’ is.

I think it’s handy to discern between values and their manifestations. Having a brain and a good work ethic is a value. Owning a yacht is a manifestation of having a brain and a good work ethic. It would be very easy for someone to conflate the two.

Here are some things that I consider to be high value in a male, just to get the conversation started.

Being calm and reasoned. Taking responsibility. Being enthusiastic. Taking good people under your wing. Being far sighted. Being firm in your beliefs, while sensitive to those who aren’t quite as secure as you. Not following the crowd into folly. Accepting the responsibility of caring for others. Knowing how things work and using it to your advantage. Being self-sufficient. Being fiscally responsible. Having a skill that contributes value to society (an obvious manifestation of this one, would be a good job or career). Having interesting hobbies (playing in a rock band, writing a popular blog, being a pickup artist, having your own jingle – that you wrote yourself).

Notice how all these things are carried within your mind. They don’t rely on locations, circumstances, or possessions. They can all be proven in ten minutes of conversation. You can pick this guy up and drop him in any city in the world and he’ll carry his whole value with him.

Now that to me, is a high value man.

high value man

It’s all about having a gaudily coloured car that screams ‘validate me’.

Here’s what a high value man is not, but what I think a lot of people conflate and confuse. The following are the kinds of trappings that low value people chase in order to appear high value.

Going to the right bars. Wearing an expensive watch. Knowing the bar owners. Being in a VIP area. Knowing celebrities. Owning expensive items (cars, yachts, clothes). Having lots of money. Spending lots of money. Being seen in the right places. Having hangers on. Being part of a crowd. Ordering champagne with sparklers in a nightclub. Impressing people on Facebook. Being ‘liked’.

All those things to me scream low value. Sure, I get seen in the right places at times, but it’s not a core value, it’s merely a happenchance manifestation of a core value. I spend time in some expensive bars, sure I do, but it’s not a core value. I’ve had the sparklers champagne moments. I’ve even had hangers on and lots of them (playing in hot bands, running fashion parties and being a fairly well know pickup artist spanned 15 years of my life, I’ve had 15 years of notoriety in some form or another)

All these things are just minor manifestations, happenstances, almost cancers, of core values. I ran fashion parties because I was entrepreneurial, charismatic and people liked me and wanted to come to my parties. The same reasons people came to see me in my band and the same reasons people patronised my pickup company.

And this is it, this is the point of this whole conversation. Value doesn’t mean cars, clothes and yachts, it means high SMV based on what you bring to the table only in your abilities, attributes and virtues. You’re not high value because you have a million in the bank. you’re high value because you KNOW HOW to get a million in the bank and you had the work ethic to get it. It doesn’t matter if it’s there or not, if you lost it, you’d still be high value. A lottery winner isn’t high value. He has the money, but not the know-how.

Manifestations of attributes aren’t the attributes. A man is high value through his virtues, through the brain he brings to the table on a date.

I am going to write a book on dating one day.

Four simple rules for the first few minutes of a street pickup

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Jimmy Jambone here. Coolest fucker in street pickup.

After a long lay-off, I’ve been retracing my street pickup knowledge to some extent these past few weekends. The training ground has been my closest ‘home city’ of Manchester.

When I taught street pickup, I learned quickly that the most effective way to teach I could find was not necessarily to teach kids what to do, but to watch them do a few sets and tell them what to stop doing.

For this reason I recorded my early sets to self-teach myself what my issues were after such a long lay off. Recording your sets is so valuable, you can review what happened and you see what you don’t see in the moment – all the bad shit.

So if you’re anything other than a top table street pickup artist, get yourself some equipment to record your work and watch over it when you get home.

Here are four basic early mistakes which I made and which I have swiftly corrected.

The Stop

arms length - street pickup

I said about arms length, you don’t have to measure it!

Get in front of her and stop her moving. Smile, keep a safe distance, about an arm’s length or just over, make eye contact and own her. Command her visuals, take up her path and own her world. She must physically and mentally stop. Don’t position yourself as a side dish, but the main course and the focal point.

Don’t get lazy with the stop, no matter how competent you feel you are.

You’re a man of charm and style, you do the little things right.

Vocals

How many times I have moaned at my students for talking too quickly. It’s one of the single most common mistakes I saw guys making. Speak slowly and evenly at first while you rope her into your bubble.

You want to tease her into your frame. Speaking slowly with eye contact and a low tone is soothing and hypnotic.

Jabbering like a fucking lunatic is one of those behaviours to iron out.
Take your time to pitch your reason for stopping her. If you can take ten seconds, you’re on your way to her not caring where she was headed.

Get her to do the talking

You like her and you want to find out more about her. If she wants to talk, shut up and let her. Not letting her talk is contrary to the claim you want to get to know her (which is what you’re saying when you stop her to talk to her). It’s not congruent if you don’t let her talk.

the goal - street pickup

He’s halfway there? Now all he has to do is put up with her hyper sensitivity, irrationality and constant nagging for the next 40 years.

If she is talking, let her do it. You guide the path of the conversation, you lead the subject matter, but if you can get her talking you’re halfway there.

Save your guns

If you can get her contributing to the conversation then you’re doing very well. Now, if you can’t get her talking then you have to stack, search for hooks, DHV yourself, plough and generally persuade her into talking and sometimes you’ll want to spike her with some attraction material.

Don’t be keen to blow all your top lines in one minute, no matter how hilarious they may be.

Get her talking and save the ammo. You may really wish you had something sharp to throw in for when the conversation peters out.

Or for when you’re on an instant date.

Now get out there and do it. It’s show time. These simple rules will elevate your street pickup skills or you can learn street pickup from us if you’ve got a moment to spare.

How it all started for Bojangles – Part 1

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Bojangles here and this is how my adventure sex lifestyle first started. It was sunny Thursday afternoon and I was sat in my office role and wondering why the hell I couldn’t get a date. Girls who had friendzoned me kept telling that I was a nice guy, handsome and all this other ego massaging bollocks. Whilst twiddling my thumbs, I decided to take a look at what I could do to help me overcome this issue of being a pussy. So I opened up google, typed “How to pickup girls” and clicked search. [Read more…]

Indian tribalism

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Indian tribalism is well known part of the culture, whether it’s in ethnicity or even within households and extended family. Personally I can count the number of Indian guys who know of The Game and are pretty well versed in it’s skills on one hand. I am sure there are plenty out there but I’ve yet to come across them, in fact I have found that most Indian guys my age (stereotyping here) are just standard betas who bow to the will of their fathers and uncles etc.

The psych here comes from Indian families and how they work. By the age of 23/24, your parents, uncles, aunts and practically everyone the generation above, is on your ass about getting married. They actively spend time finding a girl, hooking you up on pointless blind dates and lots more. A lot easily succumb to that pressure and fulfil the wishes of their parents, a chodeness that resonates with their peers.

Asian family hierarchy is set in stone traditionally. Once a man marries and has a child he automatically ascends to alpha in his household even above his own father who still tries to remain top of the perch but inevitably falls. If you don’t follow this ‘natural course’ that being an Indian seems to dictate then inevitably that alpha male in your household will project his vision on you and do his best to make you do what he wants (get married and have bloody kids!).

The Indian tribalism is normally structured as:

The Grandfather -> Eldest son -> Rest of his sons -> Eldest of Eldest son -> and so on – and this will be within an even larger extend family and community structure.

I’m not sure how this would work in a kingdom but I’m guessing it would be closer to agnatic primogeniture?

I am still a bachelor at the grand old age of 30 and according to my old man and my old dear I am past it and will soon find no-one to spend my life with. There was a conversation with my dad a few years back, he’s old fashioned, traditional (something that I respect) but unfortunately it’s not something that the modern woman respects.

Father – “Don’t you want to get married son and settle down? You can’t be a bachelor forever you know? ”

Me – “Not yet, I’m fine, just want to have fun with as many girls as I can”

Father – “Son there’s only so many holes you can poke into the wall!”

Me – “I know dad but my wall is the Great Wall of China”

Father – (laughs quite a bit) “ok bye” <hangs up>

Indian tribalism

Lots of holes

 

He laughed, of course he fucking did, even I bloody did. Inside though he was rueing it, he’s hardly pressed me on the matter since though my old dear does her best. He knew it, he suspected his downfall, my brother’s waging a war path in the house too asserting his authority, me the oldest son being away from home is no longer under the sway of that alpha male anymore. He’s accepting it now, his time to rule the tribe has gone, and that is without neither of his sons getting married and having children. Poor man, he ruled the roost for a good stint but his time is done. Has he lost his tribe? Or is this just the modern world of Indian tribalism? I have no idea, my brother neither knows seduction nor thinks he needs it, so I believe that he’ll take over the tribe in time.

To be come a player in this world, you’ve got to break out of that hold. It’s quite sad, traditional and conservative values are disappearing all over the world. These values shaped civilisation for millenia, yet here we are at a forefront whereupon you either adapt with the slutiness or you accept that you’ll marry a slut.

Is the world a better place for me dictacting that I don’t require Indian tribalism? No, as you’ll all know, players are not wanted by society. It’s why we are ostracised and despised. Society want’s men to get married, to make babies and to slave their asses off for fuck all. Indian culture is no different, you’ve got 2 paths, get married or get the fuck out. I’m in the latter phase for now as I love this lifestyle though I may get married in the future.

It was a huge step for me initially as I wrote in a post for the Return of Kings a couple of years back.

Unfortunately I can’t speak for the rest of my indian contemporaries, or maybe I can because I think that they are the complete opposite to me. How many Indian’s are there that reject their Indian tribalism? How many Indian men actually have the courage to do it? I’d guess not many at all, after all who wants to be the lion that looks like he’s been cast out of his pride?

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