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It covers the story of how he got into the world of game and progressed towards become the heartbreaker today. I was at the two events he held to launch his recent products and he gave me a copy to have a look through. Balls Deep is really well made like his other books, you’ve got a professional cover, good artwork and over 400 pages of action, pain and fucking.
Many a men have had meltdowns during their red pill journey. Honestly it’s ok to have a meltdown, it’s human nature and something that helps you change your identity. The red pill path is fraught with pitfalls and serious troughs that balance out the highs of the feelings of freedom and the joy of getting somewhere with women. Many men who get into learning game or following a red pill path drop off at the first dip. Their first meltdown is something their ego and identity can’t handle nor recover from. Therefore they regress back to what they know and felt comfort in, a world isolated from truth.
Guest post by Teedub
I’m currently in the Estonian capital of Tallinn, a lovely place that I could certainly see myself living in more permanently, and on Sunday I witnessed something that reaffirmed my desire to leave the UK on a more regular basis.
A nation’s geography is its destiny. When discussing India, we have to keep in mind that it is a more a continent than a country: from the Himalayas to the tropics of Sri Lanka, its two million square miles has hundreds of cultures, languages, cuisines, religions, and folkways. There is not one India, but many. Its history is staggeringly ancient; the oldest of its civilizations, the Mohenjo-daro, dates from at least 3000 B.C. While the northern regions share in the cold of the Himalayas, the southern parts from Delhi to Sri Lanka are oppressed by unrelenting heat. The alluvial plains of the Punjab, however, offer an agricultural fecundity that can feed more than one nation.
This is a guest post from Teedub discussing Sweden’s growing dissatisfaction with ‘progressive’ multiculturalism’.
Recent news coming out of Sweden appears to suggest growing disillusionment with the insane multiculturalism experiment. [Read more…]
I had the pleasure of reading what was a brain busting and delightful book over the weekend.
You’ll have heard of Quintus Curtius and probably read one of his essays on Return of Kings or RVF. He’s an accomplished and articulate writer who well is versed on philosophy, ancient wisdom and civilisation through the ages. The description Quintus gave for his book was:
This is a guest post by Teedub on the way modern feminism is digging its own grave
1) #GamerGate
The fallout from what has become known as Gamer Gate has implications for modern feminism beyond the obvious call outs and revelations. People such as Zoe Quinn have shot themselves hugely in the proverbial foot with their actions. [Read more…]
Guest post by Teedub on Muslim grooming gangs
Everybody has their own opinion on Islam. In the manosphere, the view tends to be more negative than in the mainstream media. Why? Well for starters we’re not shackled by the wretched chains of political correctness, nor are we in the business of vote-whoring on behalf of politicians. Instead, like with feminism, we take the dictionary definition lightly, and instead look at actions and behaviours. And, judging by the action of those who claim to be acting on the behalf of Allah, it ain’t good.
Whether you’re picking up girls and she’s got a good vibe and seems really interested in you, or you’re planning a trip and have a million ideas of what will happen, don’t expect anything. Expecting things is more often than not a one way road to disappointment.
Now, I don’t mean to seem like a killjoy or like someone who has a bleak outlook on life as that’s not the case at all. So, bear with me for a sec.
My best nights out have been when I haven’t thought about girls and whether or not I’ll pull. Everything in your life needs some sort of plan or direction, but it’s within the confines of that plan or direction that you need to erase any thoughts of what you expect to happen. For example, my plan tonight is to go out and drink at Bar X, and then Bar Y, and then Bar Z. That’s all I know that is going to happen for certain. Anything else that I think about that doesn’t transpire will leave me feeling deflated and disappointed. I will then judge my night on how I expected it to turn out, and when it doesn’t turn out that way, I deem it a failure.
The best way is to focus solely on what you can control – the fact that you’re going to 3 different bars to drink. Though, obviously that may not be a certainty, but it’s in your control whether you go to those bars or not. Pulling girls and expecting to meet lots of exciting people – that’s not in your control.
Using this method, your night will be a whole lot better. Without expectations, there is no pressure and there is nothing to measure your night up to. That’s your ticket to a clearer and more positive mindset.
When I was working last year, I had about a thousand different ideas as to how this year would turn out. I thought it would be completely social, chilled, care-free and exactly how I wanted to live my life. Over the course of the year, certain things have transpired and left me realising that I wasted so much time thinking about how things were, that when they didn’t happen, it left me feeling shit.
For example, I was gathering Facebooks and numbers of girls in Spain before I went there so that I could meet up and hang out with them, and get into their social circles. I got about 15 girls in total which was more than enough. I saw their groups of friends and pictured me integrating with them – I’d selected girls to focus on more due to the attractiveness of their friends.
When it came to arriving in Spain, thinking about all the people I’d meet, I only ended up meeting 3 of those 15 girls. Two there was no chemistry with, and the other I hooked up with. The other 12 I didn’t even get to meet with for a coffee or anything. An illusion completely shattered.
I’ve been on this journey over the past 6 months of reevaluating things such as my perspective on society and who can be trusted, what the key to a better mindset is and how I can go forward without experiencing disappointment.
The answer, as I’m sure you’ve guessed by now, is “don’t expect anything”.
Since I’ve pushed it deeper into my brain, my head has been a lot more levelled, my mind more relaxed, and my overall life experiences better. If I go out at night, I don’t expect to bring a girl home. I’ll just see what happens. If I make plans with my friends, I don’t expect them to come about. I’ll just see what happens. I won’t plan any ideas in my head or come up with scenarios that I want to play out because there’s nothing I can do to make them a reality.
Coming to grips with the fact that I can’t change anything in the past, and I can’t do anything about an event in the future – that I can only control what happens right now – has transformed my life.
It’s human nature to think of all the cool and wonderful things that are going to happen to you, but it’s frankly a waste of time. “If I won the lottery, I’d do this, this and this”, “this weekend, this will happen and that will happen and I’m going to this and that and this and that”. No. You won’t.
It’s nothing more than a dream happening in your head. You can play out an act as many times as you like, but when it doesn’t happen, and you’re left upset by the situation or let down, you only have yourself to blame. To preserve our egos and the choices we make, we only expect that good things happen. By freeing yourself of the burden of expectation, you don’t face the consequences of constant disappointment.
The person that buys the lottery ticket – he can only picture and expect what happens when he wins the lottery. Images flash in his head of quitting his job, buying a yacht, buying a supercar, buying a mansion, having a supermodel girlfriend – but when reality hits, and he hasn’t won the lottery and continues with his life as normal, it’s a kick in the bollocks.
When a guy meets a girl in the street and she’s bouncing around and responding to him, and she willingly gives him her number after agreeing to go out on a date – he can only picture and expect what happens when they meet up. Images flash in his head of going out for a drink with her, her being all dressed up, planning a potential relationship with her and all the cool things couples do. But when reality hits, and she doesn’t text him back, or she flakes on the date, it’s a kick in the bollocks. Everything he thought about and expected and planned was futile.
I’m sure that you reading this can relate to those two situations. I can. I’ve expected those exact things, thought about them, and played them over and over in my head only to be let down by the fact that everything I thought about was a lie.
By not expecting anything, you accept both scenarios: that you will win the lottery and go on to never have any financial worries again, or that you will continue your life as you are now. Either way, you don’t face disappointment or upsetting yourself.
By expecting something, you are putting that idea onto a pedestal, much in the same way that guys put girls on pedestals. That idea then becomes untouchable, sacred, and a perfect situation. Too good to be true, and it is. In the same way that you learn to realise that no girl or person is special and what you expect them to be, you must learn not to place your life and future on a pedestal.
By not expecting anything, you are free to live your life in bliss without a weight bringing you down. It’s almost as if you have nothing to lose when you don’t expect anything because you’ve got no perfect ideal to cling onto. So, make kick ass plans, have a direction for your future, set yourself goals, but don’t expect them to go the way you plan. It may turn out better than you expect, or it may turn out worse than you expect. One thing is for certain, it won’t turn out exactly as you think it will.
When I want something, I want to make it as easy as possible for myself to get it. I don’t understand the whole “I like a challenge” mindset. I think people who say that are either full of shit or are unnecessarily giving themselves a hard time.
Don’t get me wrong, the process of development over time whether it’s a work project, increasing your body mass or gaining money is, to a degree, an exciting thing. You can watch the gradual improvements and feel excited about the journey you’re on. Looking back on anything in life, you tend to enjoy the moments you worked hard and strived for something more than actually achieving the goal.
Saying that though, if you told me I could have £20 million by working hard for a year and having a sense of satisfaction of coming from nothing to something; or winning £20 million on the lottery tonight, I’d take the lottery win.
That doesn’t mean I’m lazy. I just want the easier option to the same end goal.
I give myself the best chance with women by working hard on different aspects of my life. I’m sorry to say, but Game alone can’t get you with the top tier of women. You need to address other areas about your make-up in order to be able to pull these women with ease.
Who stands a better chance of pulling a supermodel? One of the many PUAs walking around Oxford Street with the cliched leather jacket, boots, scripted lines and fake confidence? Or the ripped guy in smart casual clothes with an aura of being self assured from having his life in order and having money in the bank?
It’s obvious what the answer is – so why aren’t more guys striving to be like that?
Well, I believe too many guys judge their lives and happiness based on their success with women. They require validation from girls and Game is an easy way to get that from low value girls. Typically, in my opinion, learning Game is mainly picked up by guys who have some kind of lonely or broken background. So, mostly, they’re easily pleased when it comes to pulling girls whether it’s a 6 or a 9 – with the latter only accessed regularly by very few, no matter what the internet people tell you.
With easy satisfaction comes laziness and a lack of motivation to address the areas that are holding you back. What I mean by this is that, if I can pull 6s or 7s regularly and have the sex which I never used to have, what’s the point of changing anything about my lifestyle?
Sure, some guys are happy with that. Well, I don’t think anyone is truly happy at that level, but as I said, they’re easily satisfied. So, if they’re content to continue that way, then so be it. What they eat doesn’t make me shit.
For me, I’m not the finished article by a long stretch. But I like to give myself the best chance with women as possible when I meet them. Long term readers will see that I’ve become location independent, and I’m currently free from the shackles of the corporate world – an interesting prospect for a lot of girls, as I’ve discovered.
Having a keen eye for good style, and with the help of places like Masculine Style, I’ve redefined most of my wardrobe so that when I go out, I stand out from the crowd. This also goes a long way into impressing girls, and the higher value girls appreciate a guy that knows how to dress. They react better to me when I’ve dressed up well compared to if I’ve thrown a t-shirt on.
I’m saving money and working on some things in order to reach my financial goals of becoming a millionaire by the time I’m 30. I’m also going to get back into the gym consistently again soon after 18 months out.
To put it in geeky terms: imagine you’re playing an RPG. I’d rather spend time before big bosses training my characters up and maxing their stats so that I can strike through the boss with a single sword blow. That’s a much better scenario than going in and trying one tactic, dying, then coming back with another over and over again. Although my way takes a bit more work before the application, the results come easier.
You’ll also find that when you focus on yourself, seeking validation from women becomes meaningless. Sure, you may want to propel your image in order to satisfy the attention of more women, but ultimately, you’ll start wanting to do more things for yourself. I, for example, have an image of the lifestyle I want and the person I want to be. That’s all for me and nobody else. But, in satisfying myself (and I’m very critical of myself so it’s hard to do), my chances with women will inevitably improve when I want to pull one – all while living a kick ass lifestyle that I’ve built for myself.
Chasing women to fill a hole is futile. My philosophy is that you should just objectively look into the mirror and address the issues instead of going around in a cycle that doesn’t really provide you with happiness. By this time last year, I’d slept with 9 or 10 girls when I was in “PUA” mode. This year, I’ve slept with 4 girls, but I feel a lot more at peace in my mind with my current situation and the direction I’m heading in.
Taking a step back and addressing what I feel needs to be addressed will serve me much better in the future, both in my chances of making a success of myself and giving myself the best chance with women as possible.