Money, Lifestyle, Women, Travel
This article is part of a collaboration with Bojangles to explore the Indian psyche and help Indian men in the manosphere. This initial article will be mostly conceptual and theoretical but I’ll delve into more practical items later.
As Indian men, are we so different from other kind of men? Or do we think of ourselves that way? Specifically, are we as Indians above a certain group of people? Are we below them? What makes us so great? If not, what makes everyone else so great?
As a guy that is pretty focused on self improvement and achieving greater things, I often hold people (wrongly) by the same standard. I sometimes automatically, and naively, assume that other people have it hardwired into them to be humble and to look at always improving their situation. Whether they can make an immediate change (joining a gym, buying new clothes) or are planning for the long term (financial targets, financial independence), as long as they’re doing something, then I can respect them and will most likely get along with them just fine.
I met up with a guy called Sean the other day who is looking to improve his overall persona. He wants to be more confident, he wants to be able to control rooms he walks into, and he wants to be able to lead interactions with people effortlessly. This is the kind of thing that I respect.
It takes a lot of inner strength to be able to look into the mirror, see somebody you don’t like, and acknowledge that things need to change. Deciding to come to somebody else that you barely know, and asking for advice and actively seeking out help to improve your own situation takes a lot more strength and courage.
At a bar we were enjoying some drinks at, we got onto the topic of night game vs day game. I remarked that I feel more comfortable during the day because girls aren’t expecting anything, you can talk to who they really are, and they don’t have automatic bitch shields up.
The difference in girls during the day and during the night are quite stark. Their personalities change, their friendliness changes, and their overall confidence changes. It has to. Bars and clubs are the modern day equivalent to mating grounds where male animals present themselves to the most attractive women for reproduction, only this time, it’s not just the attractive women that feel that they’re the prize.
Due to the increase in social media, a below average looking girl can, from the comfort of her own bedroom, feel like a princess and like how one of the most popular girls in school did. The right lighting, the right airbrushing, and the right angle can do wonders for a chubby girl with low self esteem and no charisma.
This has lead to more and more girls walking around in social environments, whether that’s in the public domain or indeed a bar or club, thinking that they deserve the best. They’ve got hundreds of likes and followers as a platform for their new-found confidence and beauty, so who’s to challenge their self belief?
What makes it worse is that beta guys, blue pill guys, and low confidence guys tend to find their “swagger” and confidence in a night club scenario or at a bar. This is something that Bojangles and I found to be a constant problem during our jaunt in Croatia. During the day, 99% of guys are pussies. During the night, 99% of guys are your competition. Suddenly, they can throw their weight around. Suddenly, they can maintain eye contact with a girl. Suddenly, they can approach a girl. All with the backing of alcohol and their alcohol fuelled chump friends behind him.
This leads to a problem. Girls then get hit on more by different amounts of guys, and they suddenly wait for the next upgrade. They turn down decent looking guys in hopes of the muscular, well-dressed, chisel-jawed adonis to come up to them.
It doesn’t matter what the girl looks like, she expects – no, demands – that she gets the best of the best. Never mind her bad skin, never mind her chubby belly, never mind her complete lack of individuality – she deserves the absolutely best of the guys.
What tends to happen in most scenarios is that the girl gets too drunk and, realising that this Prince Charming isn’t going to appear, settles for “less”.
Like it or not, as guys, we have to put a lot of effort in to impress girls. The more self-aware you are, the better you’ll do with girls. If you’re not successful, you figure out why and you address it which is one of the traits of being a man. When faced with a problem we use cold, hard logic to figure out the solution. Usually, anyway. And let’s not get started on the motivation required to sort out said problem.
Girls, however, with the amount of pro-women shite that appears in the media don’t need to worry about self-awareness. Unfortunately, there are too many thirsty guys out there to continue giving them a platform for their self delusions. No matter how they look, no matter how they act, and no matter how old they are, a guy will somewhere be propping her up.
When you’re constantly told you look beautiful or that you’re a great person, what need is there for self-assessment? Why would you even try and be self-aware when there are so many people to tell you all about you?
As a result of this, a lot of guys compare themselves to how women are treated. Nobody is there to tell John or Steve how well dressed he looks today or how hot he looks, so his confidence is battered. Men shouldn’t need that to feel confident. As long as you aware of yourself, your weaknesses and your strengths, then you can improve your life and your overall persona with a little bit of work. You just need to be patient and you’ll get there.
Those who lack self-awareness will only get so far in life. Women in particular will feel the bitter hit of the wall in due course, and then will have to face up to reality that they’re not as unique as they think. They won’t be able to figure out what’s gone wrong. As we’ve seen, this then leads into anti-men hate campaigns on the internet and so on.
The lack of self-awareness in girls needs to come to a stop. It will never truly come to an end because too many men let themselves and our gender down by liking pictures, commenting on pictures, messaging girls and chasing after girls that aren’t worth the attention.
Do us all a favour: stop with the social media shithousery. What you see on social media is not an accurate reflection of what you will get in real life. You are contributing to the problem every time you give a girl the attention that she desperately and undeservedly craves.
If you don’t believe me, go onto an independent escort agency’s website. Find what you believe is a hot prostitute on there and book half an hour with her. Turn up, and she’ll look nothing like she does in her pictures. She’s no different to the girls you’ll see on Instagram or Facebook.
And yes, I did book a whore once. And yes, I did walk away from it.
I’ve been thinking of doing some ‘Game for Indian guys’ posts recently. This came about because of discussions I had with other stand up Indian guys over at RVF on the old IRT thread. There were a lot of stereotypes thrown around on that thread that showed how badly Indian guys are thought of around the world (even in India). Unfortunately, those negative thoughts towards them aren’t baseless at all, they are all truths; truths that Indian guys have created by their actions and how they act around women, whether it’s the girl in your village in desiland or the white girl across the bar. [Read more…]
When I want something, I want to make it as easy as possible for myself to get it. I don’t understand the whole “I like a challenge” mindset. I think people who say that are either full of shit or are unnecessarily giving themselves a hard time.
Don’t get me wrong, the process of development over time whether it’s a work project, increasing your body mass or gaining money is, to a degree, an exciting thing. You can watch the gradual improvements and feel excited about the journey you’re on. Looking back on anything in life, you tend to enjoy the moments you worked hard and strived for something more than actually achieving the goal.
Saying that though, if you told me I could have £20 million by working hard for a year and having a sense of satisfaction of coming from nothing to something; or winning £20 million on the lottery tonight, I’d take the lottery win.
That doesn’t mean I’m lazy. I just want the easier option to the same end goal.
I give myself the best chance with women by working hard on different aspects of my life. I’m sorry to say, but Game alone can’t get you with the top tier of women. You need to address other areas about your make-up in order to be able to pull these women with ease.
Who stands a better chance of pulling a supermodel? One of the many PUAs walking around Oxford Street with the cliched leather jacket, boots, scripted lines and fake confidence? Or the ripped guy in smart casual clothes with an aura of being self assured from having his life in order and having money in the bank?
It’s obvious what the answer is – so why aren’t more guys striving to be like that?
Well, I believe too many guys judge their lives and happiness based on their success with women. They require validation from girls and Game is an easy way to get that from low value girls. Typically, in my opinion, learning Game is mainly picked up by guys who have some kind of lonely or broken background. So, mostly, they’re easily pleased when it comes to pulling girls whether it’s a 6 or a 9 – with the latter only accessed regularly by very few, no matter what the internet people tell you.
With easy satisfaction comes laziness and a lack of motivation to address the areas that are holding you back. What I mean by this is that, if I can pull 6s or 7s regularly and have the sex which I never used to have, what’s the point of changing anything about my lifestyle?
Sure, some guys are happy with that. Well, I don’t think anyone is truly happy at that level, but as I said, they’re easily satisfied. So, if they’re content to continue that way, then so be it. What they eat doesn’t make me shit.
For me, I’m not the finished article by a long stretch. But I like to give myself the best chance with women as possible when I meet them. Long term readers will see that I’ve become location independent, and I’m currently free from the shackles of the corporate world – an interesting prospect for a lot of girls, as I’ve discovered.
Having a keen eye for good style, and with the help of places like Masculine Style, I’ve redefined most of my wardrobe so that when I go out, I stand out from the crowd. This also goes a long way into impressing girls, and the higher value girls appreciate a guy that knows how to dress. They react better to me when I’ve dressed up well compared to if I’ve thrown a t-shirt on.
I’m saving money and working on some things in order to reach my financial goals of becoming a millionaire by the time I’m 30. I’m also going to get back into the gym consistently again soon after 18 months out.
To put it in geeky terms: imagine you’re playing an RPG. I’d rather spend time before big bosses training my characters up and maxing their stats so that I can strike through the boss with a single sword blow. That’s a much better scenario than going in and trying one tactic, dying, then coming back with another over and over again. Although my way takes a bit more work before the application, the results come easier.
You’ll also find that when you focus on yourself, seeking validation from women becomes meaningless. Sure, you may want to propel your image in order to satisfy the attention of more women, but ultimately, you’ll start wanting to do more things for yourself. I, for example, have an image of the lifestyle I want and the person I want to be. That’s all for me and nobody else. But, in satisfying myself (and I’m very critical of myself so it’s hard to do), my chances with women will inevitably improve when I want to pull one – all while living a kick ass lifestyle that I’ve built for myself.
Chasing women to fill a hole is futile. My philosophy is that you should just objectively look into the mirror and address the issues instead of going around in a cycle that doesn’t really provide you with happiness. By this time last year, I’d slept with 9 or 10 girls when I was in “PUA” mode. This year, I’ve slept with 4 girls, but I feel a lot more at peace in my mind with my current situation and the direction I’m heading in.
Taking a step back and addressing what I feel needs to be addressed will serve me much better in the future, both in my chances of making a success of myself and giving myself the best chance with women as possible.
If there’s one thing that I can’t stand people saying to me, it’s that I’m “so lucky” to be in the position that I’ve put myself in.
After working tirelessly last year, I no longer have to rely on working a corporate job. This gives me a great amount of flexibility in the hours that I work, the work that I do, how much money I make for myself and most importantly: whereabouts in the world I live.
Last year, I was working 10-12 hour days under a manager that was victimising me simply because he didn’t like me. I tried speaking up, but it only succeeded in plunging me further in the bad books at work. I was going through hell.
After these mentally draining days at work where my social life was taking a massive hit because of the hours I was working, I would get home at 2am and…do some more work. I would finish work, go back home and instead of relaxing, watching TV, playing my PS3 or hanging out with a girl, I would do some more work.
I had a vision for how I wanted to live my life, and I worked hard to make it a reality. My housemate saw the progress I was making and I tried helping him out down the same path, but he would come up with excuses. “I’ve got x to do”, “I haven’t got the time after work”, “If I’m free this weekend, I’ll do it”.
The difference between me and him was that I really wanted it. I wanted to live freely and was prepared to make sacrifices in order to achieve that freedom. He was working less hours per day than me, and yet I was the one who found the time to make serious efforts in improving my working situation.
If you have a goal, you can’t simply wait for it to present itself to you. You can’t just wait for “the right time” to start working at it. That perfect moment will never come. It really boils down to this: sit your ass down and work at it.
That’s all there is to it. There’s no such thing as “I can do this” or “I can’t do this”. What I’ve learned in life is that what a situation boils down to really is “I want this” or “I don’t want this”.
If you want something, you go and get it and you have it. I always laugh when people tell me they’re the kind of person that “when I want something, I go and get it”. Yet they’re living a mediocre life, paying attention to mediocre struggles, and trapped inside a mediocre mind. Of course, if that’s what they actually want and they have it, then I’m wrong here. But, I don’t think anyone doesn’t “want” better.
For most things in life, if your attitude is that you “want” something but you’re not prepared to work for it, you may as well just say “I wish I had that”. That’s how effective you are when you say you desire something but don’t take any action.
If you say you want something, but don’t go for it, then you don’t really want it after all as far as I’m concerned.
That’s the difference between winners and losers. Winners don’t have dreams, they have targets. And they work at making those targets a reality because they want it. If you really, truly desire something, then you will work hard to have it. New job? New car? New lifestyle? You’ll see the short term pain required to achieve the long term gain.
The problem is, many people don’t want to hear about, talk about, or make any effort. What they’ll do instead, as you improve your life, is tell you what I’ve written in the title of the post.
I was catching up with a few people recently, telling them the stories I’ve had from this year so far, and I was told that I was “lucky” for being able to live where I want and see so many places. It really pissed me off.
I told the girl that said it that luck was nothing to do with where I am. I’m the product of hard work and dedication to a target. Calling someone “lucky” for being in a better position than you in life is disrespectful, in my opinion. It takes away all the hard work that you’ve done and you’re simply living a great lifestyle because lady luck was on your side.
I’ll tell you who’s lucky: a prince being born into royalty; a lottery winner; someone being born with good genetics; casino gamblers; a chance meeting with someone valuable to you; and so on.
People will use the word “luck” for the sake of ego-protection. They don’t want to have to admit that if they put in a little bit more work, then they too could have the things that the “lucky” people have. There is no esoteric among us (though there’s certainly a case for royalty) that are just gifted the world and everything that they want. There’s no such thing as privileged positions. Every famous or rich person you see has worked hard to get there. You just see the product of that hard work.
I believe that it would hurt too many people for them to admit “that famous/rich person, I too could have what s/he has if only I could be bothered to work towards it”. As I said, instead, people will hide behind the word “luck”.
I’m not lucky to be able to travel around the world whenever I want. I put myself into this position. You can too if that’s what you really want.
Night game is something Bojangles and I excel at when we’re in a bar. We’ve been doing it long enough to work out what the most effective techniques are and how to use the environment to our advantage.
Now, when we work our night game routine, very little of it is actually approaching girls. We either do it with them approaching us in mind, or working things to a point where we’re pretty much guaranteed not to be blown out. I like the easier things in life.
A large part of our night game is building value in a bar, taking it away from everybody else, and having girls shoot us a series of different looks and other indicators of interest. Once it reaches boiling point, then that’s when we’ll head over to talk to a couple of girls or a group of them.
It massively helps you if you have a bar on lockdown. If you know the bar staff, the owner, the dancers, the promoter, or whoever else works there, then it will only go in your favour. Turning up late to a packed bar and having all the barmen and the owner greet you is fucking awesome and makes your life a whole lot easier. Everyone will be looking at you. The girls will be intrigued, and the guys will feel deflated because they know they’re not the coolest dudes in the room.
As a pair, Bojangles and I are very keen not to seem like “those guys” that sit down together in a bar silently and just look at women. Too many beta guys do this. Although we’re not looking at girls in the same way as the betas (i.e. in desperation and thirst), we want to keep our value high.
We have a lot of things to talk about together, but there’s a time and a place for certain conversations. Spending a lot of time together too, we can run out of things to say to keep each other entertained – particularly in a loud bar where you want to keep conversation to a minimum.
Bojangles devised a little night game technique to make it seem like you’re occupied and also to keep your value high. It’s proved immense in our night game routine and has a lot of girls curious about us because we’re not “those guys” just sitting around waiting to be opened by a group of girls. We’re living in our own world. Coupled with the value from the bar staff, we seem a level above everyone else.
The technique is very simple. If you’re stuck for words with each other, and don’t want to just sit round twiddling your thumbs, keep the conversation flowing by just talking to one another like this:
“Blah blah blah”
“Blahdy blah blah motherfucking blah blah”
Sounds stupid, I know. But it has a lot of positives.
You can’t help but laugh at each other when you talk this way. Laughing among yourselves with girls looking over at you creates a big interest. Who are these guys? Why are they only paying attention to themselves? Why aren’t they looking at us? What are they talking about? What’s so funny?
People always want to be in on a joke.
This will keep your value high in a bar, keep your energy up and ensure that you don’t look like boring twats. No girl wants to be with a boring twat.
As the night goes on, you’ll realise that you’re getting a lot more looks. Maintain eye contact with girls, lean closer to your mate and keep doing the “blah blah” technique. With a cocky smile, the girl will think you’re talking about her and her friends. She’ll become flustered but won’t stop looking over at you to see if you’re still interested in her or talking about her.
That’s when you strike. Head over to the table that she’s at and hit on her and her friends. She’ll already have told her friends about you. Her friends have probably noticed you already. It breeds a bit of familiarity because they know who you are (to a degree) before you’ve hit on them and makes the process a lot smoother.
The key is to build up that value first. By displaying your value in the bar, you separate yourselves from the other groups of guys in there that will be sitting around with each other, drinking and staring at girls as if to say “I wish I could have her”. You’re the cool group who are having fun, and people want to be a part of that.
Blah blah motherfucking blah. It’s really simple.
Bojangles and I are setting off to Croatia this Saturday (April 19th). We’re going to be running daygame bootcamps in Croatia with the delightful local girls that are just waiting to be hit on.
The daygame bootcamp will be a week long and you’ll get to hang out with the two of us for a week of intensive learning, beautiful girls, great food and a hell of a lot of fun. The sun is shining, the feminine girls are in a great late Spring time vibe and are very receptive to even the newest of guys looking to get into daygame.
You won’t have another week like it. Have you always thought about going on holiday and pulling girls but never got round to it? Well, this time we’ll make it a reality for you.
Never done an approach in your life?
Don’t worry, we’ll cater the daygame bootcamp to your abilities. We’ll help you go from nothing to getting girl’s numbers and taking them out for a date on the first day. You won’t have had the company of the types of girls you’ll be talking to ever before. It really will propel your confidence and your ability with women ready for when you go back to your home country – whether you’re coming from the UK, America, France, Ireland or Australia!
We have our own groups of girls in Croatia and we can help wet your social whistle by getting you to interact with our current social groups. Maybe you could even pull one their friends.
Experienced daygamer?
You’ll get help to fix whatever issues you think you may have with your daygame and we can cover all aspects. Whether that’s approaching, interaction with women, body language, confidence issues or date game. You’ll see from looking at our reviews that we’ve been helping guys with all levels of daygame from zero to advanced. Our experience encompasses over 1000 daygame approaches and from working and learning with quality daygamers such as Krauser and Jimmy Mac.
You may have problems you’ve not noticed or realised and that is something Bojangles and I can pick out when we see you.
What you’ll get with us
In this city, The 3 Bromigos are established as high value men as mentioned here, and you’ll learn more than just daygame from us. You’ll get to hang out in VIP in some of the best bars in the city thanks to our connections and also get to test your skills on models, TV stars and celebrities from across Europe. Your accommodation will be covered in the fee and you’ll stay with myself and Bojangles throughout the week in an ideal location that gives you logistical superiority.
We’ll take you shopping and help you improve your style to stand out from the crowd for the better. We’ll help you discover a side of you that you never knew you had. And we’ll help you bag a sexy European girl or two…or ten.
You’ll get the following help from us:
At present, we have our first student booked for one week from the 20th April – 26th. We’re out in Croatia for 6 weeks, so we only have 5 places available at present.
For enquiries and bookings for our daygame bootcamps in Croatia, you can contact us on our bootcamp page.
Take a look at our reviews below:
Bojangles has a fantastic knowledge of the area. Zagreb is a great city, the women are beautiful and easy to talk to, you’ll eat at great restaurants, drink in cool bars where he has solid connections and generally have an awesome time. He will quickly spot the weak points in your game and work with you to make solid progress.
http://the3bromigos.com/2014/04/02/daygame-bootcamp-review-brisey-rvf/
Before attending the 3Bromigos daygame bootcamp with Bojangles I had yet to do a single day game approach.
Bojangles is without a doubt an expert in his field, I felt his time was well worth the money. The overall experience was very enjoyable, and quite a good laugh. For me it was really eye-opening to the possibilities of creating interactions with woman I’m attracted to. He’s also, as you would imagine from the blog, a pretty damn cool guy to hang out with.
I would thoroughly recommend this daygame bootcamp to anyone who needs that extra encouragement to take some action.
Being a naturally introverted person, in theory, a daygame bootcamp should have been my worst nightmare. It actually turned out to be one of the best weekends of my life.After a quick briefing in which Bojangles explained what i should say and what body language i should aim to demonstrate, we left Starbucks. Within 2 minutes i was talking to a stunning blonde who i would never have been able to approach an hour earlier. I could lie and say i got her number (i didn’t) but with Bojangles help it was made into a possibility.All in all i would say that this was an amazing experience and it is up to me to carry on, now that Bojangles has shown me the way.PS. There is now nothing more satisfying than seeing a girl cross her legs mid conversation and just knowing you are making her pussy tingle!
Having known of game and running night game periodically over the last year and a half I wouldn’t describe myself as a total novice. However, day game – to me – was a total different kettle of fish. Realising that I had been using alcohol as a crutch I looked to day game to not just improve my overall game, but my self confidence as well. The 3 Bromigos Daygame Bootcamp did just that.
I arrived in London the day before my daygame bootcamp was to begin. I had barely finished checking in when Bojangles was already texting me to prep for the following day by socialising with everyone and anyone I met at the local bars. This impressed me as it showed he was prepared to give extra help outside the ‘allotted daygame bootcamp time’. If you’re a newbie looking to kick start your day game (like I was) or looking to take your game to the next level I thoroughly recommend the 3 Bromigos Weekend Daygame Bootcamps.
http://the3bromigos.com/2013/11/07/daygame-bootcamp-review-super-mj/
A few months ago, Krauser released a huge book (it’s a goliath at 460 pages) dedicated to daygame using the London Daygame Model. I’ve known him for many years and having purchased and read his previous offering – Daygame Nitro – I did not hesitate to pay the £60/$100 this book costs. For a few years now, he’s been leading the advancements in daygame as a science, if you could call it that and having seen him in set, knowing how intelligent and well thought out his ideas are, this made it an easy decision.
I won’t lie, it was a struggle at first to get my paws into it, due to time constraints and skimming through certain parts. However I’ve read it a couple of times over the past months and used it to mould certain parts of my daygame skills which I felt were lacking. I’ve learnt a hell of a lot which I myself could not put into words, actions that I already knew I was performing but could not explain. Krauser’s done it all in this book, his attention to detail is concise and as he says in the introduction – “Everything I write must be what I actually do and think.”
The first part of the book starts off with Vibe. Here he explains the mechanics of how daygame interactions work and the where the basis comes from. What you start to notice as you read through this section is the neat little hints outside of the main paragraphs that explain certain terms that he’s using and how to use them in a set. He uses metaphors brilliantly to help you visualise how to approach getting the right mindset.
The targeting section of Vibe was a part I really enjoyed. Here he shows the different types of women you will meet on the streets, the characteristics that they display for you to identify them and how to mould your approach to each type. Here’s where little segments on ‘avoidance weasel’ start to come in, these are great little tips that help you start approaching leading into the next segment which is Approach Anxiety. This is a short segment in comparison to others in the book, but let’s just say he cuts right through the bullshit and gives you real solutions on combating it.
Part two of the book centres around the street, stopping a girl, opening her and moving through the phases to either extract her or take her number. The wealth of information here is astonishing, if you’re an intermediate daygamer, you’ll probably consider yourself advanced after digesting this part of the book. Again the helpful tips are jotted around these pages and relevant to the part of the book you’re in. You can see he’s taken time to present the information so that’s useful and not just splattered around making it disjointed, it’s something that really adds to value of this book.
This part of the book really stands out because it can be easily recreated on the streets, he’s dropped a few templates, tells you how to stand, how not to come off creepy and how you manage the interaction. Here you learn how to go from being the one doing most of the talking to switching it to her investing heavily. It’s something I learnt from his previous book and from himself and I do use it myself in sets to great effect.
The third part of the book is what he calls the ‘Intermission’. This revolves around text game and long game. Krauser is a master at long game, keeping sets that he opened last year, still simmering just waiting for him to re-enter the scene. Here he gives you the tools to do the same with that girl you opened in Poland last year, who still sends you little messages now and then on Facebook/WhatsApp.
My text game was appalling the last time I hung out with Nick, he’ll tell you so too! I’ve improved considerably since then being as it was quite a long time ago but hell, 40 pages on texting and you really start to realise why the fuck I’m still shit at it. Yes he’s got a blueprint for that too and it’s fucking excellent, however it’s also malleable to you. I’ve followed it for my recent daygame successes and it’s been a bit like driving a car in GTA, there are no red lights, everything is fucking green.
The long game section is brilliant, it’s something he’s shown on his blog before. I’ve been using it since I first saw him wind out a story to a girl about a trip to Sicily and the effect it had on her. My own experimentations with it have drawn parallels to what he’s had. I was not as good as controlling the frame possibly as he has been but trying to immerse myself in this section, I’m very confident for my future endeavours with long game. I can’t lie and say I’ve tried out it recently, I’ve not hard the opportunity but will definitely do so once I return from my summer in Europe.
The next part of the book revolves around the ‘Date’. Here he helps you to distinguish between a slut and a good girl as part of your ‘Pre-date calibration’. Here for me is where you really see his experiences with daygame and how much he’s thought about the processes, the women, the attraction as he lays it all out. His date model follows a similar route to ours here at the 3 Bromigos (we’ve got similar beginnings and tutelage in our paths in game).
You learn about how to keep her attention and how to manage your interactions in each venue. There’s making her fight for you attention in one to physically and verbally escalating throughout. He gives you a swathe of options here on how to have fun dates that all lead in the direction of what you want. Which of course is
Close – Here’s where you’ll start identifying nuclear shit tests, fly through any last minute derailments. Bedroom escalation and plowing through any last minute resistance there are all covered. It’s about as detailed as you will find anywhere on the internet.
He has a special situations chapter to end the book. Here you’ll learn how to deal with silly girls who play what he calls ‘silly buggers’, how to fine tune to girls and creative gambits. You also get help on how to fuck over cockblockers on your dates and forcing the SDL – that golden grail of daygame. The last section of this chapter is quite enjoyable but also keeps you centred. He goes through the path of being a daygamer and hits home with the balances required and how game will not make you happy. This is a must read section for anyone buying this book, in fact read it over and over.
Finally he pays respect to the guys who’ve helped with the creation of the book, the ideas he’s learnt, developing his daygame and his mentors. Our Jimmy Mac gets a mention in there, the lucky sod.
My score: 10
I can’t rate this book any less than perfect for this moment in time. I thought of Daygame Nitro just as highly but when it comes to the London Daygame Model, it is constantly evolving and new ideas and concepts are continually added. Daygame Mastery is the complete guide to daygame and the best book on ‘Game’ I have ever read. I’ve seen complaints about the price being set at £60/$100. So much knowledge has been put into this book that even an advanced daygamer would feel they still got more value back than they paid. It’s detailed as you can fucking get and that does not mean you’ll become King of Daygame after a one read. I recommend this to all daygamers at an intermediate level, you’ll improve fast and start to be more aware of where you’re going wrong and where you’re going right (sometimes you just don’t know). If you’re a beginner, we can help, it’s worth a purchase but you’ll be overwhelmed when you’ve not really opened any girls on the street.
You can purchase the book here – Daygame Mastery and Daygame Mastery (disclaimer we make no money off this product, not even the link).
If you’re a beginner and want to start meeting hot girls, take a bootcamp with us in Europe this summer.
Had a little European daygame bootcamp jaunt teaching Brisey from RVF, here are his thoughts:
After chatting with Bojangles on the rooshvforum and hearing his views on Croatia I decided to go for a 5 day 4 night daygame bootcamp in Zagreb. We met at the airport then checked into a great apartment right in the centre of town, grabbed some supplies from the supermarket and then discussed my strengths, weaknesses and aims over a beer in a decent restaurant. My main goal was to polish and refine my daygame which was a bit rusty and after some travel wear on our first night we hit some great bars in the area and planned our attack for the following day…
The next morning I started approaching, Bojangles was quick to notice the areas where I could improve with the main one being a relatively weak stop. We worked on this and my results started getting better, my avoidance weasel talked me out of a couple of approaches but Bojangles was patient and eased me into it.He did a few approaches himself and scored a number from an attractive girl on his first attempt then another later that day. So far so good. Later on in the evening we did some bar hopping and ended up in a high end place where we were put in the VIP section due to his contacts, placed right in the middle of some model types and getting free drinks whilst the locals looked over wondering who we were. Bojangles pulled a tidy blonde with epic cans and planned to meet her on the Sunday.The next day was more approaches and I arranged a date with a decent looking blondie. We met the following day and I ended up banging her back at her place.
Bojangles has a fantastic knowledge of the area. Zagreb is a great city, the women are beautiful and easy to talk to, you’ll eat at great restaurants, drink in cool bars where he has solid connections and generally have an awesome time. He will quickly spot the weak points in your game and work with you to make solid progress.
I would definitely recommend the daygame bootcamp from these guys, I made great process, got laid and I’m glad we went to Zagreb and Croatia rather than London.
Thanks to Brisey of RVF, we’ll be updating our bootcamp page shortly as from the end of April, we’ll be doing them all in the Balkans, get in touch if you need help, whether you’re a beginner or you have intermediate skills with daygame. You’ll get the help you need from us to get better. Contact us on our daygame bootcamps page for more information.
I’m coming to the end of my winter escape in Spain and things haven’t gone exactly as I’d planned.
In all honesty, I thought I’d have been a lot more social than I have been and I thought I’d have a social group that I’d have successfully infiltrated. I could have with one, but the girls weren’t high enough quality for me, the guys were lame, and my pickiness cut that off completely after a couple of outings.
But since I got here from day one, everything was thrown off course. The language barrier came as a shock, I’d just come off of living at home for a month in a pretty poor state so mentality I wasn’t very strong, and the seclusion of working holed up in my apartment trying to support myself plunged me further down.
My goals changed almost immediately for my time in Spain: make money, save money, and learn the language. That’s all I’ve been doing, really. I’ve banged a couple of girls and possibly have one more on the horizon before I leave next week.
Once the realisation hit me that things were going to be very different for me in Spain, I decided to knuckle down and save a load more money instead, looking forward and preparing for my venture in Croatia with Bojangles. Working for myself has been a lot more liberating and I feel that I’ve recovered from a shit year last year. My body feels back in check and I don’t feel or look so run-down from lack of sleep and stress.
The level of English here is really poor. I wasn’t expecting it to be fluent, but I was expecting a bit more than what I’ve experienced and it’s quite hard to meet guys to hang out with who are on the same wavelength as you.
The importance of having a group of solid friends, or a rat pack, has become very evident to me. I can’t survive on my own. I like living on my own, but I need to have a group of friends with me. Guys to keep me motivated, guys to chill with, guys to laugh with, guys to go out with, guys to go to the gym with, guys to drink with, guys to hit on girls with, guys to watch sport with, and guys to enjoy European ventures with.
Most importantly: guys you can trust.
You don’t want guys who are going to bitch out when you’re motivated to go out; you don’t want guys who are going to hold you back from achieving your goals; you don’t want guys who can’t help you with women; you don’t want guys who are going to hold you back; and you don’t want guys who are going to put their girlfriend ahead of you.
I’m not one for going out solo, it just doesn’t sit right with my introverted nature. I can try, sure, and I’m an extremely confident person on my best days, but I need back up. If someone knocks me down, I need friends to laugh about it with. If I’m going through a shit time, I need friends to forget about it with. If I’ve got an idea, I need friends to support it.
Rewind a year and ask me how many close friends I have that I can rely on and trust, and I could name 10. Now? At best, 4. I’ve dropped a lot of my “friends” in the past year who weren’t on the same wavelength as me or who have put their girlfriends ahead of our years upon years of friendship. I don’t have time for people who are going to hold me back or replace me at the first sign of a 7 entering their lives.
Instead, I’m focusing now on people who have stuck by me during a very testing year or so. And I’m focused on meeting more like minded people to share good times with and grow with.
A good group of friends that you know have your back make all the difference in the world. These past 3 months have really shown me just how much I value certain people and extremely importantly, that I need to make good connections for the future so I don’t have to go through what I’ve been through again.
I think being with a group of like-minded men is good not only for your mind and opportunities, but it’s good for the soul. My most enjoyable activity since I’ve been in Spain isn’t capturing my Spanish flag, but playing football every week. The camaraderie and banter between guys makes me forget a lot of other shit going on in my life and brings my own levels of confidence and arrogance up.
Had it been more regular, or had I had a group of friends to hang out with regularly, I could see myself being three times the person I am now. Not just in the opportunities I have in life, but my mental state, confidence and most likely my appearance. Getting laid and spending a time with a sexy señorita couldn’t even do this for me.
Even with your friends, there’ll be a competitive nature. Who can look the best? Who can earn more money? Who can pull the best girl? Who can lift more weights? Who can win a video game?
Competitiveness drives you forward both mentally and situationally. Your life will improve with a group of solid friends on the same wavelength as you.
The only issue is finding the guys you want to share your time with, and finding the guys who are equally as loyal to you as you are to them.