Burto once said to me as we ran an overseas boot-camp (actually the one Bojangles was on):
‘I’m hungry let’s get a burrito’.
Those words meant a lot to me. I liked burritos too.
But he also had game, and a lot of it, and he also once said:
‘There’s not a problem in game that can’t be solved with the advice ‘just open more sets’.
It was brilliant advice. I’ve repeated it ever since. If I have a similar simple nugget then it’s:
‘attraction is created in the push’
I must have said those words on every single boot-camp I ever taught and this weekend as Bojangles and I took a young lad, Jack, out in Manchester, as I said to Bojangles years ago, Bojangles passed the same words onto Jack and I remembered them.
What do you see when the average dingbat gets the attention of a pretty girl? You get a lot of pull. He actually says, ‘I am going out on the pull tonight’. ‘I’ve pulled’. He leans in and listens intently. He agrees with everything she says.
Skirt: ‘Well I just came from Next and I bought a lipstick and I am walking with my feet and I am going to go and then I will buy a skirt and I work in a sweet shop’
Dingbat: Nodding in agreement ‘yeah, wow, that’s great, that’s really great, yeah, yeah, mmmm, yeah’.
In that situation I would prefer him to glare at her with a dead pan face and say ‘I’m going to come in and nick all your sweets’. Or whatever.
Girls get excited when you knock them back a bit. Men of value have options and options create indifference and cockiness. So to get girls to fancy you, you do it with a playful push. You should talk to skirt like you have 30 other skirt to talk to. And you do, it’s called street pickup. If you do street pickup, you have options. If you go out for three months and get 1 number each weekend, you just got yourself a new girlfriend.
The pull is also necessary. If you just push she thinks you just don’t like her, so you have to pull to let her know she’s getting somewhere. I like to pull when she does something I like. So for me, a conversation would go like this:
Jimmy: ‘I’ll get these ones, you go find us a seat, what do you drink’. (Note: I am saying I will get these ones, letting her know we’re buying rounds)
Dappy Tart: ‘I’ll have a green tea’.
There you go. I like that. A girl who doesn’t drink. So I’ll just tell her flat out. I’ll look her in the eye (sexual tension) and say in a low voice with a smile:
Jimmy: ‘You’re my kind of girl, that’s sexy. (nod) Green tea it is’.
Then I’ll immediately lose interest, reel her in slightly and then just cut the rope. That’s pull. It doesn’t, on its own, make her attracted to me. It shows my interest and it might make her like me, feel comfortable with me, admire me for my values, whatever, but on its own it just shows what I want, it doesn’t make her tingle for me.
The push gives her a bit of what she wants. Attraction is created in the push. So how do I push.
Don’t be too keen to agree with her about every sodding thing that comes out of her simple little mouth. In fact, be keen to playfully disagree with her. A lot of push is by playful teasing, giving her a unfavourable cutesy nickname like Cheeky Squirrel or Lazy Arse, but that’s pretty amateur if it’s all you have got.
It will go only so far with the very hot girls.
If you really want to get pro, if you want to fuck with them some, especially if they’re very hot, you can try and use some indifference. She’ll witter away at me, telling me something and (as long as it’s not important, as long as she’s not opening up to me or making herself vulnerable) I’ll just glaze over, snort or snarl and then just change the subject a second later with a smile.
I’m telling her ‘You don’t get my attention 100% all the time regardless of what mundane shit you feed me’. And that creates attraction.
It takes time to get right, so enjoy the process of adoption and roll with the punches. It’s just skirt, everywhere and easy to get if you shake enough trees, it’s not like it’s gold or anything.