There are a lot of dating tips for Indians out there over the net and in the manosphere. These are normally dating tips that can be applied to every man in any situation. However these dating tips are specifically for Indians and will help you ensure that your dates are going in the right direction.
As you’ll know by reading this blog and by going to dating venues, a lot of men/beta/chodes whatever you like to call them, treat dates as interviews leading to these weird interactions. Me and the boys find it hilarious as it’s obvious to us who is on a first date as we spot these little mistakes. Combined together they make a huge mistake which can be deadly.
As I said the manosphere has plenty on dating advice but here’s some top up dating tips that Indian guys really need to ensure they keep on top of.
Hygiene, grooming and dress sense
This is an important aspect for a culture that is derided for it’s smell of curry and hairy men. Make sure you’re well groomed, looking good and smelling good. This gives a good first impression but also allows you to hold an upper hand, by doing this, you’re already above most Indian men, who neglect all of these aspects. I’m not saying shave your entire chest but keep your armpits, beard and pubes well trimmed. Your clothes should be a good fit and match one of the archetypes listed in How to date beautiful women: An Indian man’s guide.
A lot of the time when you see guys on first dates, their body language is absolutely awful. They are what I call, always switched ‘ON’. This means that their attention is always fixated on the girl, regardless of whether she’s sitting opposite or side by side. You’ve got to be able to switch off and on, this is what creates and maintains attraction between you and your date. For example, don’t sit directly across from the girl (at a 12’o’clock, face your body in a 10’o’clock manner). Another example is look at this picture, the guy is leaning in which is fine in moderation but his body language is also poor, shoulders slumped and this is something I see guys doing throughout the date. It’s intense, you’re invading her space and it means you’re always switched on.
Ideally you want it to be the other way round, chill out, sit back and relax. Let her lean forward to talk to you. This is you displaying ‘OFF’, then when you have something to say, you can lean in, hold eye contact, say your bit, this is you switched ‘ON’. Once done, lean back into your position and relax. The same would apply once you’ve moved to a more cosier and darker venue, except the space between you and the date would have reduced if you’ve played your cards right.
Vocal tone and conversation
As we all know, many men get nervous in any interactions with women and they blather on quickly with high pitched voices. Slow down, relax, you’re here to have a fun time, speak slowly with clarity and in a deep voice. You’re here to seduce the girl, it’s not a sprint to see who can reveal the most information. Your vocal tone creates the energy around your conversation, it’s a key part of your seduction routine.
Your conversational skills also need to be above and beyond. Most men act logically on dates which will get you nowhere but into the friendzone. The key is to think logically but speak intelligently to tap into her emotions. Logical discussions are best between friends and men, girls don’t think logically, they lead with their emotions, this is seduction not a debate. Stay away from interview style questions and open them up with questions that get them thinking whether it’s about travel or sex (Krauser has a good questions game for this). I’m not saying that you should be emotional, au contraire, stay logical and rational. Practicising this style of conversation will help you develop your charm and charisma. All of this though is inevitably setting you up for…
This is an important part of any date. You must always be escalating and Matt has a superb way for you to do this. You should be physically and verbally escalating throughout your date. Remember this core tenet – Women will forgive a man for trying but she will never forgive a man who does not try. Gauge the reaction to each escalation to know how far down the process you are. You’re escalating so that you can close, follow Matt’s plan and you’ll be well on your way.
Lastly, venues are an important part of your dating ritual. You want to ensure that you’re progressively moving a girl along to a venue that enhances the seduction process. The first venue can be light and airy so that you can get her comfortable with your presence (also so that you make sure that you want this girl). The second venue needs to be on that is a little more darker and where you can ideally sit or stand side by side. At this venue there should be some sexual tension and acceptance, if not you’re probably having a shit date. The third venue should be dark and comfortable, allowing you to both kiss, grope and get along without the prying eyes that can make her nervous. Here is where you want to make your move and get her home if you can. It’s an easy 3 step process which is described within my book.
Remember when reading these dating tips for Indians, that being an Indian can be cool but being a caricature of one isn’t. So address those faults and make your dates smoother, more fun and more sexual. I devised these dating tips for Indians from my 5 years of experience within the game and from over 500 dates.
(disclaimer: That’s not me in the picture)