When I want something, I want to make it as easy as possible for myself to get it. I don’t understand the whole “I like a challenge” mindset. I think people who say that are either full of shit or are unnecessarily giving themselves a hard time.
Don’t get me wrong, the process of development over time whether it’s a work project, increasing your body mass or gaining money is, to a degree, an exciting thing. You can watch the gradual improvements and feel excited about the journey you’re on. Looking back on anything in life, you tend to enjoy the moments you worked hard and strived for something more than actually achieving the goal.
Saying that though, if you told me I could have £20 million by working hard for a year and having a sense of satisfaction of coming from nothing to something; or winning £20 million on the lottery tonight, I’d take the lottery win.
That doesn’t mean I’m lazy. I just want the easier option to the same end goal.
I give myself the best chance with women by working hard on different aspects of my life. I’m sorry to say, but Game alone can’t get you with the top tier of women. You need to address other areas about your make-up in order to be able to pull these women with ease.
Who stands a better chance of pulling a supermodel? One of the many PUAs walking around Oxford Street with the cliched leather jacket, boots, scripted lines and fake confidence? Or the ripped guy in smart casual clothes with an aura of being self assured from having his life in order and having money in the bank?
It’s obvious what the answer is – so why aren’t more guys striving to be like that?
Well, I believe too many guys judge their lives and happiness based on their success with women. They require validation from girls and Game is an easy way to get that from low value girls. Typically, in my opinion, learning Game is mainly picked up by guys who have some kind of lonely or broken background. So, mostly, they’re easily pleased when it comes to pulling girls whether it’s a 6 or a 9 – with the latter only accessed regularly by very few, no matter what the internet people tell you.
With easy satisfaction comes laziness and a lack of motivation to address the areas that are holding you back. What I mean by this is that, if I can pull 6s or 7s regularly and have the sex which I never used to have, what’s the point of changing anything about my lifestyle?
Sure, some guys are happy with that. Well, I don’t think anyone is truly happy at that level, but as I said, they’re easily satisfied. So, if they’re content to continue that way, then so be it. What they eat doesn’t make me shit.
For me, I’m not the finished article by a long stretch. But I like to give myself the best chance with women as possible when I meet them. Long term readers will see that I’ve become location independent, and I’m currently free from the shackles of the corporate world – an interesting prospect for a lot of girls, as I’ve discovered.
Having a keen eye for good style, and with the help of places like Masculine Style, I’ve redefined most of my wardrobe so that when I go out, I stand out from the crowd. This also goes a long way into impressing girls, and the higher value girls appreciate a guy that knows how to dress. They react better to me when I’ve dressed up well compared to if I’ve thrown a t-shirt on.
I’m saving money and working on some things in order to reach my financial goals of becoming a millionaire by the time I’m 30. I’m also going to get back into the gym consistently again soon after 18 months out.
To put it in geeky terms: imagine you’re playing an RPG. I’d rather spend time before big bosses training my characters up and maxing their stats so that I can strike through the boss with a single sword blow. That’s a much better scenario than going in and trying one tactic, dying, then coming back with another over and over again. Although my way takes a bit more work before the application, the results come easier.
You’ll also find that when you focus on yourself, seeking validation from women becomes meaningless. Sure, you may want to propel your image in order to satisfy the attention of more women, but ultimately, you’ll start wanting to do more things for yourself. I, for example, have an image of the lifestyle I want and the person I want to be. That’s all for me and nobody else. But, in satisfying myself (and I’m very critical of myself so it’s hard to do), my chances with women will inevitably improve when I want to pull one – all while living a kick ass lifestyle that I’ve built for myself.
Chasing women to fill a hole is futile. My philosophy is that you should just objectively look into the mirror and address the issues instead of going around in a cycle that doesn’t really provide you with happiness. By this time last year, I’d slept with 9 or 10 girls when I was in “PUA” mode. This year, I’ve slept with 4 girls, but I feel a lot more at peace in my mind with my current situation and the direction I’m heading in.
Taking a step back and addressing what I feel needs to be addressed will serve me much better in the future, both in my chances of making a success of myself and giving myself the best chance with women as possible.