I thought I’d write this blog boast…I mean post…about something that happened on Facebook yesterday.

After my post the other day where I said that I avoid places where I am of low value such as Facebook, funnily enough yesterday a Serbian girl added me on there. I was sceptical at first as to whether it was a real profile or not, but we had a mutual friend.

The mutual friend was the powerful connection I made in Croatia that I wrote about in my Power and Status post the other week.

I was on my way to meet someone last night at Green Park when I got a notification pop up on my phone that a girl had added me on Facebook. I had no idea who she was and she has a foreign name, so I checked her profile out and this is her profile picture:

My first thought was “yep, fake”. After a little bit more digging on her profile, I could see it wasn’t a fake profile so thought fuck it, I’ll message her. If I was giving a rating, judging by her other pictures, I’d give her a mid 8. She looks like a 9 in the picture above, but is obviously posing for the camera.

Put it this way, and this is how I’d rather judge girls, I’d happily walk around town with her and I’d happily introduce her to my mates. I ask myself a question these days: “would I be happy having my friends know I’m with this girl?” If the answer is yes, proceed. If the answer is no, bail. Or pump and dump her and write a post about the nasty experience.

This is the whole Facebook exchange with her, with names blanked out:

Me: Give me three good reasons why I should accept your friend request.

Her: which I rarely send request, it means that something attracted me to send to you … I know just to name a reason … say your name, image, but it is certainly fb network where you can make friends .. right? we have some mutual friends fb …

Her: English is not my best thing .. do not mind the spelling

Me: How did you find me? You must have been looking for a handsome English gentleman? How do you know [name]?

Her: maybe you’re right, who knows, I’m kidding .. [name] is a common friend of us .. and left me to add you as a friend, and so caught my attention … sometimes pictures speak more than words 

Me: You are in Serbia? I want to visit Serbia one day next year. Do you ever go to Croatia? I go there quite a lot

Her: Of course you can be my guest .. I went last year, I have some good friends there … and maybe for a few days visit Hvar …

Me: I see. I am going back to Zagreb in October and next year I am going to Zagreb for hopefully 6 months. I will visit the coast for maybe 2 months. Me and my friends have spoke to [name] about some business and hopefully run a bar in [town] or [town]. You can be my Serbian waitress

Her: and while I was studying .. dealt with some modeling and won the bid for [company] … so I have [name] as a friend … the answer to your question

thanks for the offer … but I’m not in the business …

Me: Have you ever been to London?

Her: I did a couple of times …. and I love

Me: Yes, it’s a very nice city with lots do. I’m actually just about to meet a friend, [name]. I’ll accept your friend request and we can talk another time

Her: I’m glad for that I hope that we will soon de meet and get to know

Me: Have a good night

Her: (some kissing smiley face)

It was a little bit weird receiving her message and talking to her, but her profile is legit.

Now, this is where I want to be. Girls messaging me and being mine to lose. This girl seems really interested, and I’ve spoken to her a bit more today and she’s quite sweet. The allure of a foreigner with value has intrigued her which prompted her message. She said she’s hopeful that we will meet when I come to Serbia or when I’m next in Croatia.

It does seem strange and I have no idea where this will go, but it’s the first time this has happened to me. It’s a little glimpse into what I hope my future will be like.

Being associated with our mutual friend has given me status. From what I can tell, he doesn’t have a whole lot of male connections that aren’t rich or powerful, so from being associated with him, girls will assume that I’m of the same mould.

I can ride this wave in the short term while I build my own wealth, and I will ride it more when I’m actually in Croatia, but ultimately, girls messaging me, or chasing me, or approaching me, as I’ve said, is what I want to achieve. That will come through achieving higher value and status on par with our mutual friend, but being on the cusp of it all, seeing the kind of life I want to lead and can lead, has got me wanting more and more and I’m a lot more motivated than ever to achieve that.