A lot’s made of body language, and I fully agree that it’s one of the most fundamental things to being successful with pulling girls whether on the street or in a bar.
When talking to a girl, you don’t want to appear thirsty. You don’t want to come across as if you don’t get much female attention, even if it’s true, and you don’t want to show the girl that you’re latching onto her for as long as possible as you don’t know when the next girl is going to come along and chat to you.
Most guys are like fat women when having sex. They give it their all, absolutely 100%, in the hopes of keeping that person around for some more or to come back. They pull out all the stops trying to make girls laugh thinking that’s the way into their bed, they will happily climb over their mates they’ve known for years to make themselves appear as the ringleader and they’ll throw all dignity out of the window in their efforts to appease the girl.
This is how oneitis starts, this is how “creepy” guys lurking around girls they’ve failed with will roll and this is how they all end up in their own beds wanking themselves off over the girl they “almost” got with that night.
If you want to be different, it’s very simple, don’t give a shit about girls. Tease them, take the piss, stand your ground, act uninterested and they will be interested. That’s the black and white version of it.
I didn’t include in my report from last Friday night when two girls came over to sit with us. We had the whole seating area free and they asked to sit where the biggest space was. I told them that they couldn’t and they had to cramp up next to each other on the smaller bit. In fact, one of the girls sat on the table because I didn’t give them enough space. Was she attracted? Oh yes. She even said to me “if you actually liked me I would be talking to you right now”. My response? “Okay”.
It’s not that I didn’t like her, she was actually quite pretty, it’s just that I wasn’t falling for her fluttering eyelashes and sweet talk when she first came over to use us for a seat in the packed out bar. Hmm, I wonder what most guys would do.
There’s this girl I follow on my personal Twitter account who posted some pictures of herself going around a bar chatting to different guys. She was “looking for a boyfriend” that night, she said and was doing all the approaching. Here’s some of the pictures her mate took of the interactions with the betas in the wild.
I often look at guys like this, particularly as I was starting off learning my craft, as great examples of what NOT to do with women. Don’t be these guys and you’ll be just fine.