The Epiphany Girl – Some average men will have one of these, and all beta-turned-players will definitely have had one of these. I, of course, have had one.
Back in August last year, after a couple of months of learning game and improving myself as a man, I met my epiphany girl. I didn’t know it at the time but this girl would shape my future in a massive way for the better. And no, this isn’t some lovey dovey I’m so glad to have met her bullshit post; I took the red pill and she was the water I washed it down with, so to speak.
Bojangles was seeing an Italian girl at the time and her mate was coming to London for a week, and we’d said we were going to go out as a group when she got here.
Literally everything I ever thought about women and how to seduce them got thrown out the window the first night we went out with them, everything society and Hollywood had told me just tossed aside. The things I thought you shouldn’t say to a girl because it wouldn’t make them interested in you I was saying and it was working. I was gobsmacked and the girl was all over me. She was a classy, feminine girl that was dressed up nicely and she was all over me at this bar whereas I was wearing just a jumper and jeans, and telling her I was seeing 3 girls at the time and I wanted to fuck her like she’d never been fucked before.
Over the next week, she fell in love with me. In fact, it took no longer than 2 days after the first night. She had a boyfriend back home in Italy at the time too and she was captivated by how alpha I was and that she’d never come across someone like me before. She was calling me a badboy and I could tell in her eyes that she’d been absolutely craving someone like me for years. Having seen her previous boyfriends and the current one, I could tell why.
She was my first lay since I discovered game 2 months earlier and she was easily a 9.5 in terms of everything about her: looks, personality, femininity, and submissive to alpha persona. She fell for me, and I fell for her. It was hard not to, she was the hottest girl I’d ever fucked and was what I told myself at the time everything I wanted.
Within 2 weeks of her returning back to Italy, I lost the frame and struggled to get it back which ended up driving her further away. She broke up with her boyfriend and gave me an excuse that she just couldn’t deal with guys at the moment and needed time for herself. I secretly knew that I was hurting her because I was telling her about other girls still in my attempt to regain power – a mistake maybe, but I was very new and learning – and she couldn’t take it anymore.
That was it, we just flat out stopped talking.
I was beat up for 6 weeks. I was sucking the life out of everywhere I was going, I was only half arsedly talking to other girls, I was moping at work, moping at home, moping at the gym, moping to anyone that would listen. All that hard work undone.
One day, a switch flicked in my head and I just felt different completely out of the blue. I thought she wasn’t getting all sad about me in Italy and letting it get her down, she was getting on with things without a second thought. I was that guy that the manosphere takes the piss out of, the guy with oneitis and the one that got away. I hated what I’d become and knew I had to change.
I looked at things objectively as if another person went through my situation and asked myself, “what advice would I give him?”
This is what I like to call “the epiphany girl”. The girl that makes you realise what changes you have to make within yourself to protect yourself in the future, how to view women so as to fuck more and be motivated to fuck more, and to focus on the people you should really value in your life. This girl changed my life in such a dramatic, positive way and she has absolutely no idea about it.
In the coming months I would realise that pretty much every girl you game will react to it in the same way. You’ll hear the same responses, see the same body movements and attraction indicators. “Everything is a copy, of a copy, of a copy.”
That was a stark realisation to me and only further cemented what I’d now started thinking about women and how there was no “the one”. This is why the obvious advice to anyone struggling after a break up is to fuck other girls.
Sure, it’ll help you get over the physical element of getting laid, but mentally you will see that the girl you were hung up about reacted the same to your game that the next 5, 10, 20 girls will. What substance is there to tear them apart from one another? Different looks and interests, sure. But on an interaction level, how people will fall for other people, it’s all the same programming just in a different body. That’s what you learn from gaming other girls. The one you fell for is no different to your next 10 dates.
Some blue pill men in the world will have these women, not just wannabe players and game aware men. The epiphany girl that will cut a deep wound into a man to the point where he tells himself he’ll never let it happen again, and that’s the exact mindset I have now and needed to have in order to achieve the things I want to achieve with women and life.
She’s the girl you will have labeled “different from all the others”, and it’s something you may have said about some other girls as you handed over your testicles while she sat high above on the pedestal you built for her. The epiphany girl will be the last girl you will ever treat this way.
The epiphany girl will break you and force you to mend yourself, but when you have you’ll be far better for it. Some guys fall over and over again with their scarcity mentality and never learn, but none will be their epiphany girl until they’ve changed their ways and realised how and why.
I think every guy who learns game needs the epiphany girl because once you’ve learned the hard way not to put a girl on a pedestal, internally you will look at girls differently and see them as nothing more than just a girl, nothing special. Your internal game and external game will improve naturally, you can’t teach yourself not to fall for girls so helplessly by reading a book . You’ll be able to approach hotter girls and a lot more of them, have girls in rotation without getting attached to them and most importantly, not put yourself at risk to emotional pain.
I see myself as lucky that I experienced it so early on because it’s helped me with future girls where I know I would’ve held on to situations through fear of loss. Tackling that scarcity mentality and not getting infatuated with any other girl I’ve met after her (I’ve even fucked a couple of girls hotter than my epiphany girl since) means I can concentrate on the things that really need to be concentrated on and won’t go through such a major setback later on in my life which could have had more damaging effects.
I still hold her in my mind very affectionately. Not because I’m in love with her or anything, but because she’s the one that really opened my eyes and she’s the one who was the start of what’s become an amazing journey so far.