When you first start daygame it’s easy to fall off the boil and start reverting to type, approach anxiety rises again and you slowly phase yourself out of doing any approaches. Bromigo Bojangles here and I’ve got some quick tips for you. First thing to note is that as always it’s best for you guys to get out there and try these things out, sitting behind the PC and reading it won’t really help you.
If you tell me, I will listen. If you show me, I will see. But if you let me experience, I will learn. Lao-Tzu circa 500BC
Get it into a habit
Want to lose weight, or bulk up? You push yourself out of the comfort zone, set targets for your diet and training sessions and make them habits. Daygame is the same, you want to keep at it, keep approaching and keep practicing so you do not lose motivation, so your approach anxiety does not creep back up on and so you are constantly testing yourself. Most guys drop off as soon as they have started because they don’t commit to approaching and soon retreat back into the shell they crept out of.
It seems simple but it’s very easy to stray in conversation onto topics that concern problems more than positivity such as politics, health and money. During daygame, you want to have a positive vibe and keep things emotional rather than logical. You hate your job? Fuck no, not in these conversations, you love your job, you enjoy working with the people you work with, you love the area you work in and so on. Don’t go to the extreme and pedestalise the girl but make her feel good about herself and enjoy the interaction. It’s not a chore, make it something you love doing.
Questions? No Sir
It’s a common mistake made by all of us when we first started off daygame, heck even I do it sometimes but questions are shit. It’s not a fucking interview, you don’t ask her where she’s from, you make a statement and display an opinion on where you think she is from. Question’s lead to the death of conversations, statements are gold, the replies you get back generate ‘hook points’, the person replying will always give you extra information. “Oh you’re from Valencia, my mother told me….” and so on. Statements are best, if you are going to ask questions, stay away from the closed questions, you’ll end up in a one word answer game. Open questions can be fun especially if they are based around your conversation topic and if they’ll help broaden the context of the conversation.
Bromigo Matt is a God at this, and you need to be too. Rapport is great, you’re connecting, having fun, smiles all round and it’s pleasant. However it’s not sexy, it’s not flirty and it’s just comfortable talk. It’s needed of course but you’ve got to break it and get away from being the nice guy, you want to fuck her right? Bromigo Matt pulls out all the stops, disagreeing with girls, telling them what they are saying is silly, it’s cute they have opinions and adorable like a little child, teasing them by accusing them of doing stupid shit, silence and of course escalation, fuck the niceties, stick that tongue of yours down her mouth. This takes time to adjudge though, doing any of these at the wrong time will most likely fuck up your set, unless you are Bromigo Jimmy Mac.
That’s all for now, we’ve got bootcamps slots open in April so head over to our booking store if you’re interested in learning daygame.