This is more for the newer guys to Game to help you get into a good routine on your first date with a girl, instead of just winging it when you meet her and having a nervous breakdown and pissing your pants through fear of what to say next. I’m sure a lot of you established guys have your own routines but maybe you can learn something from this and hopefully it can help in some way. That sure would make my heart warm.
For all you non-Game aware lads out there who are utterly hopeless with women, this will help transform your once a year dates with the cute-but-not-amazing girl you’re in love with at work who finally agreed to letting you breathe your toxic beta breath in the same airspace as her for a couple more hours at the end of the week. Congratulations. This is the holy grail for you and you have found it. However, it will take some work. first date advice
The first step is to not go onto Google and look for relationship advice from these self-titled, so called “experts in dating”. Let me show you an example of the type of information you’ll get: first date tips best first date advice
Choose the venue carefully
If you are doing the choosing, pick somewhere that you know your date will like. Just because you fancy the idea of eating a snake banquet, it doesn’t mean that they will.
No. Don’t pick somewhere you know your date will like. Pick a place that isn’t a restaurant, isn’t a coffee shop and that has alcohol. More to come on this later. first date advice
Whether you are attracted to the person or not – be kind.
If by being kind the article means allowing her the time of day in your precious schedule, then yes, I agree. If, however, she means holding open doors for her, complimenting her, telling her how nice and pretty she is, addressing her every command to keep her happy and not being sexual in any way, then no. I’m afraid we’re going to have to disagree, Miss “Relationships Expert”. first date advice
Let the other person see the real you.
Yes, tell the girl how you haven’t had sex in over a year owing to your lack of confidence, lack of motivation to join a gym and being content spending your weekends sightseeing with your camera as your only company. That’ll make her dripping wet for you.
Don’t rush things
Take time to get to know the other person before getting too emotionally or physically involved with them.
I agree with this one, actually. I’d say after about 15 minutes of attraction building you can make a move. london dating
And the sexy, long legged, hour glass figured beauty that obviously goes on a hell of a lot of dates to come up with such brilliant advice for men to steer them into a girl’s bed with ease is none other than this lady here:
That’s right, this is telling men how to date women and is getting paid for it. I can only imagine what her cats must think of all these rich, handsome alpha males taking advantage of her for her body.
The internet is awash with bullshit advice from people like this that will make your girl drier than the Sahara Desert and will have your head spinning for weeks after your date doesn’t want to see you again because she “has a lot of stuff going on at the moment” if you follow advice like that.
This is my standard first date routine that works wonders whether you’re looking for a long term relationship with a girl, looking for a fuck buddy or are looking to take her home that night only to never see her again. It’ll help you be sexual with the girl and create an air of mystery about you that will make sure your first date goes exactly how you want it.
Before The Date
First thing’s first, before the date, you want to keep contact minimal. Once the date is set with the girl don’t be trying to have a conversation with her by text. Texting is for setting dates and that’s it. Head on over to Roosh’s Text Messaging Guide for more info on this. advice for first date
While you’re at it, head on over to Masculine Style and get an idea for what clothes you should wear. A staple picked up from Masculine Style by the Bromigos is the blazers fully loaded with a pocket square to show that you mean business. How you dress is important in terms of your status and value in the girl’s eyes. Walking into any bars dressed that way will set you apart from 99% of the guys in there, girls will look at you and your girl will feel like she’s with the right guy.
On your date you also want to act like a real man, walk like a real man, hold yourself like a real man and look like a real man. The key is in your body language. Assuming you have even an iota of Game knowledge, you will understand this but for anyone who needs any tips head on over to So Suave because this will be too long for me to cover too.advice for first date tips for first date
Okay, onto the first date advice. It’s a combination of two things and they’re extremely important to making your night a success. They are the 3 Bar Bounce and the 3 Step Escalation. I’ll explain both in detail shortly.
In London, it’s rare that you will drive over to a girl’s and pick her up for the date. It just doesn’t work so I’m going to assume that you are meeting the girl at a set location. Normally the Tube station closest to the bars you’re going to works best and is what I do, and definitely never at the bar.
Before setting off for the date, send the girl a quick text:
“Text me when you’re there”
This is good for two reasons. The first is that it’s dominant and shows you’re in charge. You don’t want to be stood around waiting for her at the location and sending a “where are you?” text when she’s late.
She will play games with you. I’ve been on dates with girls who are purposefully 15 minutes or so late as a test to see how I reacted but using this method, I was able to counteract the tests and stay in control. If, when you arrive, you can’t see your date waiting for you then walk down the road. Wait in a coffee shop or on a bench or at a bus stop out of view of where she will be. first date advice
Now, all you have to do is just wait for the text from her. You don’t want to be seen as too keen or waiting around for her tardiness, you want to show her that you’re higher value and you arrive when you want. Once she’s sent you a text, give it a minute and reply with “2 minutes”. Now, casually stroll back down the road to meet her. The longer you take the better. You don’t want her to see you walking fast as if you’re running to make sure she’s not waiting around for you all by herself in the big, scary world. You want her to see that you’re a calm guy and you’re the prize, not the jester running around to please the Queen. “Be nice”. Pfft. help on first date
If she doesn’t give you a shit test, great. What you need to do, once you’ve passed the shit test or just said hello to her is give her a command straight away to test her willingness to submit to dominance. Have you ever felt a bit nervous when you’re going to meet a girl? Well, they feel it ten times more because of all the stupid shite they read about how men are such creeps and the gossip columns that are filled with horror date stories that she’s spent all week hoping you’re not going to emulate. dating tips
So, when you first meet her, her little hamster head will be spinning with questions so she’s not going to be able to concentrate properly which you need to take advantage of. first date tips
“Hey, you look good! Give me a little twirl!” *hand motion*
She’ll get all embarrassed and either do it straight off or ask “reeeally?” in which case you have to maintain your frame and tell her to do it. She will. It’s never failed me when I’ve used this line and I couldn’t get over it when I first thought it up and saw it work. Straight from the off, it puts you as the more powerful of the two. She’s submitted to your command and established your higher status before you’ve even asked how each other are.
Your response to her turning around has to be neutral. A simple “okay” will do because it will have her questioning whether you liked what you saw or not. Let the qualifying of herself begin. Now, take her to the bar.
The Three Bar Bounce
This is one of the most important bits of first date advice you will ever receive. When a guy takes a girl on a date, it’s normally to one bar for a few hours or to a restaurant. No. No, no, no, no, no.
The problem with this is that if you’re staying in one location the whole time, the girl’s hamster becomes comfortable and she is less likely to put out. It will show that you’re boring like the rest of the one bar/one restaurant first dates she’s been on and you’ll have an uphill battle once she’s categorised you into the same beta pool as the other losers that failed to get her gina tingling, forcing her not to be arsed about meeting you again. Restaurants are just absolutely terrible logistics wise. You’re sat across from each other like you’re in an interview. Nasty. date advice
Before the date, you’ll need to do some research on the area you’re going to and pick out three bars to take the girl to on your date and in which order. The first has to be nice and open to make sure the girl feels safe by having other people around you while you break the ice with her. The second bar can be a bit quieter or similar, but somewhere where you can sit closer to her to get a bit more physical and playful with her. The third bar will need to be somewhere quiet and preferably dark where you can sit next to her away from other people in a booth or on a sofa, for example.
There are several benefits to the three bar bounce and it’s all to do with improving the girl’s perception of you, as well as ensuring you get what you want. dating tips
Taking her to three different places – without pre-warning her before the date about it – will set you apart from the other dates she’s been on. It will show her you’re a fun guy and it will disorientate her hamster. As I said before, in one place where she gets comfortable she can start feeling in charge of the situation and of you. She’ll be more adverse to risks such as receiving your advances because of the state of comfort she’s in that she won’t want to leave or allow you to break through.
You won’t be stuck with the shitty logistics of being sat opposite her and suggesting you move from one table to somewhere else in the bar will expose your intentions awkwardly to the point where it’ll be a turn off. By leaving the bar altogether for another one makes you seem like there’s other places you want to visit, that you know what you’re doing, that you’re leading the charge and that you’ve done this before. Girls love to be whisked away on adventures, they don’t want dull and boring. This breaks the mould.
It’s also important in the Three Step Escalation. By the time you get to the third bar, it’ll make you both feel as if you’ve known each other longer than you actually have because you’ve visited several different places with one another. This is great for comfort building and the last of the Three Step Escalation can be executed a lot more smoothly.
What I normally do is take the girl for a a drink in a chain bar such as O’Neills where there are a lot of people and cheap spirits. The second bar is a bit more expensive, close quartered with lots of people in which gives me a good excuse to only have one drink there but it also gives me the chance to sit next to the girl I’m with and get some kino in. The third bar I take her to I can sit her in a booth and feel as if we have some alone time. first date advice
What articles out there are giving you that first date advice? “Take her to a venue she likes”. Oh, please. You’re the man and you’re leading so she goes to wherever you go. This gets rid of all those awkward “where do you want to go”, “what do you fancy”, “what do you want to do next” questions that will kill your game dead on your first date. This will make her a lot more attracted to you, guaranteed.
The one time I didn’t follow this rule I went to a place more convenient for the girl (idiot) and we ended up walking around in Farringdon which I hadn’t been to before looking for a decent bar to go to. We ended up in a Wetherspoons and needless to say, we didn’t see each other after that date.
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Coming tomorrow…the Best First Date Advice You Will Read This Year Part 2 (The Three Step Escalation)
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